Being cordial with your ex is a beautiful thing.
Messy breakups lead to hurt feelings, irrational actions and regret.
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Updated 6 years ago,November 5, 2018
Congratulations, youre no longer single.
God & Man
you’re free to officially close your Tinder account and change your Facebook status.
Check out these 10 tips that will keep you off the market and part of a happy couple.
Becoming Too Friendly With His Friends
Getting along with your new beaus friends is a must.
If they like you, its an automatic in.
But be mindful that they dont like youtoomuch.
you could joke with them, talk sports, and drink beers but avoid too much physical contact.
Dont make plans to hang out with your mans friends if hes not around.
This is especially true if your mans buddies are single.
They can easily mistake your kindness for interest.
And the last thing you want is for your new man to think you have a wandering eye.
Keep your interactions with his friends completely platonic.
Become a Stalker
New relationships are fun and exciting.
Its that time when you cant get enough of each other.
Flattering attention can quickly morph into bizarre stalker-like behavior.
If your man doesnt answer your texts messages or phone calls, dont show up at his house.
Put Him on a Pedestal
No one is perfect.
Giving your partner compliments is a healthy, positive part of any relationship.
Whats not healthy for either one of you is to put your partner on a pedestal.
This happens when you place too much pressure on your partner to be perfect or meet certain expectations.
Complimenting them on their appearance is guaranteed to make them feel good.
They may also start wondering if the only reason youre with them is for their looks.
The same can be said for a partner who is too accommodating.
They may soon feel taken advantage of or develop feelings ofcodependency.
Setting expectations that are too high for your partner is setting yourself up for failure.
Stay in Touch With Your Ex
Being cordial with your ex is a beautiful thing.
Messy breakups lead to hurt feelings, irrational actions and regret.
How would you feel if your boyfriend remained in close contact with his ex?
Its nearly impossible to block out thoughts of the two of them together, happy, and intimate.
Pressuring your partner to commit will undoubtedly have the opposite effect.
Just like children, our innate reaction to being told to do something is to do the complete opposite.
The more pressure you place on your partner to commit, the more theyll retreat.
They may even start questioning the relationship.
No one likes a partner who appears needy or desperate.
Asking them to fabricate their feelings is a recipe for disaster.
If commitment is in the cards, itll happen.
Say I love you
This is relationship suicide.
But this doesnt mean that you should hide your feelings either.
Just dont rush into saying it or throw I love you around like its meaningless.
Its a special phrase reserved for the right person, at the right time.
The first thing you do in the morning is check to see if they messaged you.
You spend hours on the phone, texting, or Facetiming.
The minute you get out of work or school, you rush to their house.
While this is normal honeymoon relationship behavior, you better keep it check.
Dont break plans with friends because your beau is suddenly available to see you.
All too often, people lose themselves and their identity in their new partner.
Maintain the life you had before your partner.
If things dont work out, those are the people who will still be there to lift you up.
8. have a go at Move In
Crashing at your partners house or apartment is one thing.
Its important to maintain this divide.
You dont have to share the same exact interests.
Its healthy to foster your own personal passions.
Moving in together is a monumental step in any relationship.
It means the end of breathing room and a sneak preview into life as a married couple.
Rushing into this could spell the end for your relationship.
Put Up Walls
Being vulnerableis a difficult thing for some people.
Letting your guard down can be scary.
This is especially true if youve been hurt before.
How will you ever know if this new person is your soulmate?
Although it may be difficult, try slowly letting your guard down.
Not only will you be opening yourself to experiencing true love, but vulnerability is an extremely attractive attribute.
Discuss Issues with Everyone But Him
We all need a sounding board.
Our initial reactions to things are sometimes irrational.
You need time to cool down, reflect, and get some perspective on the situation.
Communication in any relationship is key.
Your partner isnt a mind reader and neither are you.
Holding your feelings in leads to resent and countless misunderstandings.
New love is exhilarating.
But dont be blinded by love.
