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Updated 2 years ago,July 4, 2023
Dont share your traumas or insecurities.
In fact, throw out a red herring to see if this person is truly safe ahead of time.
Narcissists and psychopaths will use your traumas and insecurities you disclose to them against you.
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Now you know exactly the throw in of person youre dealing with.
Pretend you dont know their true character.
Wolves in sheeps clothing are much more likely to show their whiskers when they think theyre not being watched.
Instead, watch and observe them carefully.
Pretend youre falling for the schemes as you plan a safe exit.
Take note of their behavioral patterns and make decisions to detach accordingly.
They are much more likely to showcase their red flags when they think youre fooled by them.
Misrepresent your life in ways that protect you.
You dont tell a narcissist or psychopath what youre struggling with.
Narcissists are looking for those vulnerabilities so they can exploit you with more ease.
Whatever story you tell, ensure that it paints you in the light of not to be messed with.
Narcissists are less likely to play with people they know have resources to defend themselves.
What they dont know wont kill them and will only help protect you from harm.
Slow down theirlove bombingfrom the very beginning.
The narcissist will fast-forward you with future-faking and excessive contact, attention, and affection early on.
The key is to slow down their love bombing without them realizing it.
Even the ones who stick around because they like a challenge will eventually become worn out from chasing you.
Get what you need before they start withholding from you.
Is there anything you need from them?
If so, have a go at get that first before they begin withholding from you.
This is not about manipulation: its about knowing how toxic people think and work and acting accordingly.
Resist their gaslighting with continuous fact-checking.
Document everything.
When it comes to a narcissist, documentation is key.
Flatter them or make it seem like what you want is their idea strategically when necessary.
Only use flattery as a last resort.
Discard them first without letting them know beforehand.
Never tell a narcissist you plan to leave them.
Plan for justice quietly.
Many survivors want justice for what they went through with the narcissist.
Justice can look differently for everyone.
For some, justice means compensation or a settlement.
And for some, justice means exposing the narcissist.
Whatever path you choose, its important that you dont announce your plans and keep yourself safe.
When you rise again more triumphant than ever, the narcissist will never see it coming.
You will be an unstoppable force.
