Forgiveness might not be easy but it will surely help you move forward.
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Updated 4 years ago,July 16, 2021
The process of healing from a breakup is tedious.
A lot of nights are spent attempting to make sense of how it all ended.
Daria Shevstova
You wonder, day by day, how can two people who loved each other fall apart so quickly.
You ask yourself if theres something you could have done to save the relationship.
You imagine different scenarios.
This doesnt make the journey of getting over them any easier.
If they truly believe in the relationship, they will fight for it.
It wont be easy to just let you go.
Its not a sign of weakness to admit that you are hurting.
Part of falling in love is sharing parts of yourself with another person.
You allow them to see you from inside out.
You create beautiful memories with them.
This is the most painful part of a breakup.
The idea of starting all over again on your own.
It is okay to recognize that youre scared.
It is okay to admit to yourself that you are hurting.
Being honest with yourself about what youre going through will somehow make the process of healing more manageable.
Losing someone is not the end of the world.
Well, it can feel like it in the beginning, but in reality, life will go on.
Time will not stop ticking.
The sun will still show up tomorrow, and everybody will carry on with their usual day-to-day tasks.
You are allowed to take as much time as you should probably deal with the pain inside your chest.
Give yourself space to reflect on everything that happened.
But at some point, you have to go back to living your normal life.
You have to learn how to live with the pain.
And hope that along the way the pain will go away.
This is an opportunity for you to have me-time again.
How long has it been since you actually had time for yourself?
you’re able to have the opportunity to be reacquainted with yourself without the influence of other people.
Forgiveness might not be easy but it will surely help you move forward.
Forgiveness is heroic and reserved for people with the kindest hearts.
It is not easy to give to someone who broke your heart.
It doesnt have to happen overnight.
It doesnt require a deadline.
But it’s possible for you to start forgiving them now slowly, day by day.
Being the bigger person somehow lessens the weight off of your shoulders.
Sometimes even the greatest relationship doesnt last forever.
Not everything stays afloat in the sky.
At some point, things come back to the ground.
Sometimes they land gracefully, sometimes they crash and burn disastrously.
Either way, the time spent together above didnt last a lifetime.
This can happen even to the two people you least expect to separate.
Relationships are not an easy-breezy thing to manage.
If someone stops trying, its all downhill from there.
Almost all of us go through this.
Thinking about it doesnt absolutely take the sting away, but it can make you feel less alone.
Its possible that one day you will find someone better.
If you think about it, there is surely a match for you out there.
In a world of 7 billion people, you only need to find one person.
Youve learned your lessons.
Youve had meaningful experiences.
You know yourself more.
You have to be okay with letting people go.
The pain of realizing your future will no longer involve them is immeasurable.
Some days this is going to make you feel lonely.
But over time, you have to learn to be okay with it.
Because part of life is learning to let people go.
To let them become who they want to be without you in the picture.
Some people will come into your life and leave.
And when the time arrives that they have to go, you must set them free.
The only thing you might control at this point is your own life.
Whatever theyre doing right now is, sadly, none of your business.
If they choose to date someone new, thats their choice.
And you cant control it or have influence over it.
The only thing that it’s possible for you to control now is how you move on.
You have to find ways to reunite with yourself.
You have to train yourself not to stalk them or check on them.
You have to avoid comparing yourself to them.
Just because it seems like theyre totally over you doesnt mean that you have to feel the same way.
Youre allowed to take your time.
There is still more for you in this world.
You are still so young and have so much time ahead of you.
This agony youre experiencing now will not matter someday.
You still have so much more love to give and someone else deserves to receive it.
There are many great things waiting for you out there.
A failed romantic relationship is not the end of the world.
Its not even worth regretting.
it’s possible for you to only learn from it.
