Your mind isnt looking for solutions, its looking for rest.
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Updated 4 years ago,March 25, 2021
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The real answers to your intractable problems arent sexy.
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Because real change isnt sexy.
Real change usually happens gradually and takes a lot of hard work.
Even those overnight transformations required gradual changes in thought and behavior that were brewing beneath the surface.
Solutions either require time, energy, or sacrifice, and mostly always require all three.
Your mind isnt looking for solutions, its looking for rest.
But my dear squirrel, its not doing any of that.
Its just harassing you all day.
Anywhoozle, your mind is looking for a place to finally rest.
Give it thatgive it rest.
Nothing changes until you make changes.
There is no change possible unless there are changes made.
Love is either there or it isnt.
There is no such thing asgradationsof love.
And if its there, it willalwaysbe there.
Years will pass and people will change, but love never disappears.
Stop kidding yourself, thinking youll fall in love with someone eventually.
If you dont love them by now, you never will.
But dont tell them,I dont love you now and never will.Much too honest.
True love is mysterious.
We cant choose who we love or why we love them.
Wouldnt life be easier if we could?
Love doesnt work that way.
We are victims of love; we are captives of love.
We arent architects of it.
You are only rich when you are free.
If you are wealthy but afraid of losing what you have, you are poor.
You are a slave to your salary, your belongings, your lifestyle.
You are poor when you covet what you have and when you cling to it.
Others only feel our love for them when we accept them completely.
Theyll just feel temporary relief followed by anxiety.
Theyll feel anxious and insecure that the love will be lost when life inevitably puts them through the ringer.
Theyll be anticipating the loss of your love every time they turn the corner.
Likewise, we can only feel love when we feel valued just as we are,becausewe are.
Fear and insecurity are the ultimate threats to love and the greatest impediments to feeling it.
You are the only one who will save you.
Even if you are critically depressed, you are the only one who will save yourself.
You will agree to see the therapist.
You will agree to make the changes.
Get off your ass and save yourself.
You are worthy of being saved.
Youre going to do it yourself, and youre going to feel unstoppable because of it.
Why would you want it to be any different?
Clear that fucking path yourself.
Then when you look for someone to thank, you’ve got the option to thank yourself.
You are the creator of everything in your life.
You are the writer, actor, and director all at once.
You get to choose who you are and where you go.
If youre already protesting, realize that youre creating your own protest.
Youre being a weak little bitch about it.
And youre allowing that weak bitch ass voice to steer the wheel of your life.
Is that what you want?
Some distracted and defiant squirrel at the wheel?
Or do you want to decide where the fuck youre going?
You will lose everything.
Sorry to be the one to tell you.
But you will lose everyone you love, everything you own, everything youve ever cherished.
I dont know how long you have to liveIm not God.
Im a stranger from the internet who has never met you.
But I know youll die.
And you will lose everything when you do.
So cherish every second of your life.
Cherish every person you have ever come across.
Stop gossiping and talking shit about people.
Like, what the fuck is that kindergarten bullcrap about?
Mind your own business.
Be busy being happy.
Stop putting your life on hold for conditions that dont matter now and wont matter in the end.
Live your life, because you will lose it.
Again for the people in the back: One day, you will die.
So be sure that you lived the way you wanted to live.
