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Updated 6 years ago,April 5, 2019
Being ghosted sucks.
And, despite knowing better, you keep texting them anyway.
Closure
Its the obvious reason, right?
Gabi Mulder
You want closure, an explanation of why they just couldnt be bothered with you anymore.
You hate losing
Dating shouldnt be a competition, but sometimes it feels like it is.
But those are all milestone things, even if they feel like a competition at times.
(Or maybe competition is the wrong word, but thats a different story.)
But being ghosted by someone?
That means you lost the race in being the first one to get over it.
you’re free to be the one to properly get over it first.
Its a challenge
Some of us have competition in our blood.
And even more than feeling like youve lost, you want to win.
You dont even just want to win by being the one who ultimately never reaches out again.
Winning, for you, means winning them back.
You want to change their minds.
You want to make them want you.
Fuckbuddy, friends with benefits…they seem synonymous.
Or at least thats what you are telling yourself.
Sometimes that might even be the case.
Either way, you still try.
You became friends, after all.
You did, right?
You come across their name…alcohol really makes you do dumb thing sometimes.
Familiarity
Dating nowadays is hard.
Between Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and just meeting random strangers at bars, it can really exhaust you.
Being with someone you know is reassuring, its easy.
There is none of that first date facade where you venture to only show the best parts of yourself.
Being with someone who is familiar to you is a relief from daily life.
Even if youve only been out a few times, its still easier than starting all over.
Why let that go?
Why not text that person you were hanging out, the one who hasnt gotten back to you?
Weve all been there.
Boredom is a powerful thing.
And when youve just been ghosted, that sucks even more than usual.
If you text the person who ghosted you, at least youd have someone to complain about too.
The sex was just that good
Sometimes thats all there was.
Or, no matter what problems there may have been, thats what you mourn the most.
The sex was just so good thatyou still think about it, even when you probably shouldnt.
And you definitely couldnt have been the only one who felt that way.
So why not try for another round, you know, for old times sake.
Breakups will always suck, rejection will never not sting.
But having someone you gave your heart to disappear on you?
Its hard to imagine some people are really just that cruel.
Love is blinding, love is worth fighting for.
One more text definitely seems worth it.
