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Updated 11 months ago,May 26, 2024
Negging.
Numerous pictures with the opposite sex (if theyre straight) or even their small children.
Multiple selfies if theyre a man.
Happy Valentine’s Day. Young sexy man with a gift box and a bouquet of roses with traces of red lipstick in the shape of lips on his face from kisses, standing on a white background.
Are they looking for a date or a harem?
He will do this with shady female best friends, or even past exes.
Do not fall for this.
They give you preemptive challenges to make you feel like you have to win their approval.
Narcissists and manipulators on dating apps make a run at lure their targets in with a preemptive challenge.
They will attempt to kickstart communication or provoke a response by using this method.
They might ask you to prove yourself in some way to them to get you to respond to them.
Lets see if you could inspire that or So you graduated from Harvard.
Is it really as hard as people say it is?
They mention their exes or previous dates in their bio or messages.
In the best-case scenario, they are emotionally unavailable and not over their past relationship.
The narcissist is actually looking for victims who will prove their loyalty to them with this pity ploy.
They treat you like a therapist.
They share sob stories that are over the top early on, expecting you to comfort them.
They mention they need someone who doesnt take themselves seriously or understands their sense of humor.
People who are genuinely funny dont need to beg others to understand their unique sense of humor.
That means they expect to be able to gaslight you freely and say whatever they want without consequences.
They claim they need a relationship thats drama free on their bio or messages.
Its always the no drama folks who have the most chaos in their lives because they themselves create it.
Those who explicitly state they dont want drama are usually the ones manufacturing chaos in the lives of others.
This is a red flag as it points to a lack of accountability and inability to engage in introspection.
Sexual come-ons or love bombing to disguise their true motives.
Manipulators and narcissists know thatlove bombingtheir victims is a way to get into someones bed and head early on.
The date plans are a no-go.
Go at your own pace.
Remember: manipulators are looking to rush the process so you dont catch on and identify their red flags.
They may ask you to meet up right away without getting to know you.
Resist the temptation to fast-forward the talking stage.
They rage when you set boundaries and have a go at get you off the app early.
Narcissists require constant attention and they feed off of it.
This is an audacious request considering they havent even taken you on a date yet.
They need to work and earn your trust.
Unless youre using social media to vet the safety of a dating match, its not necessary.
Always do a full background check on a potential dating mate.
