What to do now?
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Updated 4 years ago,June 18, 2021
Youve been ghosted.
What to do now?
Tim Mossholder
Oh, I know!
Cry rivers and consume three times your recommended daily calorie allowance to ease the pain.
That was obviously sarcasm, kids.
You were ghostedI know it stings.
Ive been there and I know that it can really syphon the confidence right out of you.
This is when you feel that urge to text your ghoster and ask them what you did wrong.
Perhaps you dont only want closure but also want to gain their love back.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you never had their love.
The next time you feel like texting this miserable excuse for a human, read this list.
Theyre not that great.
Lets be real, we overrate the people we date.
Crooked teeth, smelly feet, never taking care of an entire check at a restaurantthe list goes on.
This person is no different.
In a few months, this person will only be a distant memory.
You will have been on so many dates that this person seriously wont matter.
They havent reached out for a reason.
They didnt forget to text you back.
Its likely that theyre not in a coma somewhere.
They ghosted because they didnt like something about you or just didnt see it happening.
It sucks, I know, but they have their reasons.
Youre not trying to beg anyone for love.
Thats not how love works.
We decide to love people.
Its not a feeling, so keep your dignity close to your heart and love yourself first.
You dont need this person.
So what if they like your pictures?
Yeah, they may still be lingering on your social media.
Liking a picture means absolutely nothing.
It means you look good in a picture.
Dont read any deeper into it or get your hopes up.
The silent treatment works (sometimes).
In a strange turn of events, sometimes not reaching out resurrects the ghoster.
It feels good when they come back from ghost-land and give a shot to kick it to you again.
Let it feel good.
This person used you, so you’re free to use them right back.
Remember how they truly make you feel.
Think back to the moment you realized they had ghosted you and how it made you feel.
Think that it could happen again, shattering that little heart of yours a bit further.
Give someone else a chance.
Youre going to get looks from other people.
Youre going to go on other dates.
Heck, the next date you go on could be with the love of your life.
Dont give this person any of the energy that you could be investing in someone else.
You deserve someone who truly wants to be with you.
This person doesnt want to be with you.
Its as simple as that.
Also, keep in mind that you were not the issue, they were.
I know it sounds cliche, but its true.
This is all part of the game.
The truth is that ghosting happens.
Its a part of this now, and you have two choices.
The first is to understand it and not let it affect you when it happens.
The second is lose faith in love and never date again due to your irrational fear of getting ghosted.
I know it stings, but it stings for a teeny, tiny while.
