“I’ll always be defined by my past.”
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Updated 5 years ago,May 11, 2020
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Ill always be defined by my past.
Doğukan Şahin
No matter how much you dwell on or obsess over the past, you cant change it.
Youre only wasting necessary time and energy on something you cant do anything about.
They wont love me if they dont do X and Y.
This mindset is often seen in relationships, and this train of thought needs to end.
I get that toxic relationships exist and people endure these things in abusive relationships.
However, this unhealthy mindset exists even in healthy relationships.
People have different love languages, and they say I love you in all sorts of ways.
You just have to look closely at the signs.
Im never going to achieve anything.
Trust me, you are going to achieve great things, but you better destroy this mindset.
Instead of spending time making yourself feel bad, why not actively pursue a goal youve been putting off?
Actions do speak louder than words.
Im never going to find love again.
Theres nothing wrong with being singleorbeing in a relationship.
You dont have someone?
it’s possible for you to go after that career.
it’s possible for you to go to that bar and get drunk with your friends.
Being single isnt the end of the world.
Im never going to get a job.
Everyone needs a job, whether they admit it or not.
Trust me, you are going to find a job.
However, you better want it for yourself first.
Get the future you want, because you deserve it.
He loves me, but theyre just…
Stop excusing toxic behavior.
Stop tolerating things just because theyre your significant other.
If you see a red flag, stop hoping theyre going to change for you.
You dont deserve to love the potential out of someone.
You deserve someone who you love exactly as they are right from the beginning.
My passion should always feel good.
Youre allowed to be exhausted, even if your career is inclined towards something you love doing.
Your passion doesnt guarantee a path of sunshine and rainbows.
It isnt instant gratification just because you followed your passion.
Theyre going to change, just give them time.
This is a line that every single person has been guilty of saying in one way or another.
You cant change, fix, or save someone.
It isnt supposed to be your responsibility in the first place.
Dont you get that this is how abusive friendships and relationships begin?
you gotta walk away before you get stuck and you cant get out.
People need to accept me exactly as I am or they dont deserve me.
Just like you shouldnt tolerate someones unhealthy behaviors, they shouldnt tolerate yours either.
Friendships and relationships dont work that way.
Success just isnt for me.
Success is vague, and everyone has different definitions of success.
How will you be successful if you never even try?
