You may even develop a biochemical and psychological addiction to the abuse cycle.
Some of the ways they can be broken can appear counterintuitive and may surprise you.
This has the double benefit of resisting their gaslighting attempts.
This is because they knew they could not win you over with their authentic self.
Likely, they also knew you had more options than them and viewed you as out of their league.
That is why they targeted you in the first place.
What did you initially dislike about their personality, appearance, interests, hobbies and demeanor?
What will younotmiss about the narcissist once theyre gone?
What can you do once youre free of them, that you couldnt do before?
What will you be free to do, feel, and think?
How confident will you be?
What burdens can you now let go of?
What thoughts and triggers will you no longer be haunted by on a daily basis?
What special occasions will no longer be sabotaged or tainted by their presence?
This gets us to compete or compare and lose sight of what makes us irreplaceable.
The trauma bond convinces you that the narcissist is irreplaceable.
You have specific traits, internal and external qualities that cant be replicated in anyone else.
They disliked your self-confidence?
Its because your healthy pride threatened their ability to instill insecurities in you.
They didnt want you to pursue higher education or career goals?
Your ability to attain knowledge and pursue your dreams made it harder for them to control you.
They told you that you dont let things go?
Your ability to discern patterns and call out abusive behavior threatened their attempts to erode your boundaries.
However, having a healthy ego is necessary to remembering who you are and what you deserve.
Thats because theego has the healthy pride and survival instincts that is required to detach from toxic relationships.
Avoid allowing the narcissist to use love bombing to lure your ego back into the relationship.
Instead, the ego helps us use that same energy to detach from the relationship.
Lean into the disgust, disdain, and naturally intuitive fear you may feel toward your abuser.
They are taught to always be polite, demure and compliant to protect the feelings of others.
In reality, they will only miss out on more abuse when they leave.
Narcissistic individuals take a stab at micromanage even our perception of the positive feedback we get from others.
9.Connect with your inner parts according to the Internal Family Systems theory.TherapistDr.
These inner parts can be shaped in part by our childhood experiences and traumas.
Rebuild your confidence, center your goals and hobbies, and take small steps toward these goals every day.
