We may be fragile sometimes, but we are always strong.
But like many relationships, my friend lacked abasic understanding of women.
For me, it was clear as day what she wanted from this argument.
Tim Foster
For him, not so much.
I am totally for equality, but men and women aredifferent.
And in more ways then whats underneath our clothes.
The genders think differently, feel differently, and their needs are, most often, different.
Women Operate From A More Emotional Place
And thats not a bad thing.
First off, most of that is over-exaggerated.
Yes, weve been raised being told its ok to show our emotions.
Yes, we want to express them more than males do.
And yes, there is even scientific evidence that we experience negative emotions more than men do.
And thats not even taking into account romantic partners.
Women have a long history of being wronged by men due to the patriarchal society we grew up in.
No, this is not me being a feminist or whatever.Its simply the facts.
Being a female in this world meant we went through experiences that made us untrustworthy and scared of men.
Its a really shitty reality, to be honest.
Understanding that women feel this way can help you be a better partner and an overall better person.
Communicate with your partner about how comfortable she feels in the relationship.
Listen to her experiences that she has been through in the past.
Perhaps even skip out on revving your engine and absurdities through your window.Just a thought.
Women Want To Feel Understood
I hope by now that everyone knows the importance oflistening.
But a step beyond listening isunderstanding.
And while the first step to understanding is listening, women want a bit more than that.
Understanding means that you’re free to say back to the person what they told you.
Women Are Not Crazy
There is a term for undermining someones experience and making them question their sanity.
Usually, the term is used when the person consciously manipulates the situation to their advantage.
Because the word crazy isnt just crazy anymore.
There is so much stigma held behind calling a woman crazy.
Its a pretty loaded term, and generally, women arent going to react well to hearing it.
And Im not sure there is ever a justified moment to call someone crazy.
Each persons feelings are valid: you cant deny what someone is feeling.
Whether youagreethat their feelings are well-founded is a different question.
But I would advise you have that conversation once you both have cooled down.
My friend explained how women go through a lot of pain.
Literal, physical pain.
We ovulate every month a pain man will never understand no matter how hard they try.
When the time comes, we are the ones bearing a human-alien fetus inside our wombs for 9 months.
That is a burden we must endure.
Youll never come close to knowing these kinds of pain.
Women Want Equality, But We Also Want Nurture
Now I cant speak for all women on this matter.
But I can speak for the majority of the women I have talked to about this.
We want to feel like your equal, not like your sidekick.
With that being said, we still appreciate you holding the door open for us.
We love romantic gestures like flowers.
We still want you to pick up the tab more often than not.
We still want to be held like we are the most precious thing in the world.
Not six months into the relationship, not 6 years into it.
This is perhaps a relationship-saving piece of advice.
Complacency isnt great in life and its especially not great in a relationship.
Women want to feel appreciated and loved no matter how long youve been together.
Take her to the spot you went on the first date.
Write her a card explaining all the reasons you still love her.
Just dont forget to make her feel appreciated.
Just like you, we are an individual.
Ask your partner about her specific love needs.
Plus, its a great way to create moreintimacy.
But see and speak to a woman like she is an individual.
Not merely part of some massive cluster of people known as women.
Women Are Fragile and Strong
Yes, we may crack at any moment and start crying.
But if anything, thats a healthy trait for us and onethats been suppressed for you.
Women have been raised to feel like its ok to express our emotions.
Weve been taught that showing them isnt a sign of weakness, its a normal part of life.
Couple that with being the more emotional gender and we have what could be seen as afragileperson.
But also know we are resilient and strong.
We endure 57 days a month where our body sheds itself, bleeds, and we dont die.
We fight for change, mercilessly, until we see it come to fruition.
We put up with a lot of unfair systems that make it harder for us to succeed.
And yes, that most likely affects you.
I hope by now that it goes without saying that pressuring a woman into anything is entirely unacceptable.
But having an open conversation about where her head is at will quickly wipe the air of any misunderstandings.
Maybe itll take a few days, or perhaps a few months.
If the person means a lot to you, youll know that its worth the wait.
Because her feeling uncomfortableisnt about you, it has to do with what shes been through.
I promise its not about you,but with time, she will open up.
