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Updated 5 years ago,December 24, 2019
I believe everything happens for a reason.
1.Forgivenessis the best gift you could give to yourself.
Even if you dont feel as though they deserve it, forgive someone for your own peace of mind.
Cezanne Ali
Forgive them so it’s possible for you to release the pain they caused and move on.
Forgive yourself and take it all as lessons learned so your future self knows better.
2.Acceptance takes time.
You must remember, youre not responsible for the actions of others or circumstances that are beyond your control.
3.Set boundaries for people who create negative energy in your life.
Dont be someones punching bag.
Take the space you need for yourself.
Just be sure to have those boundaries set and stick to them.
If they cant respect your boundaries, you may have to eventually cut off communication.
Its 100% okay to let go oftoxic people,regardless of them being close family or long-time friends.
Your well-being comes first.
4.No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to just everyone.
They probably dont even notice how unhappy they are or that theyre projecting and taking things out on you.
If they want to view life through such a negative lens, let them.
And at the end of the day,their battle is within themselves, not with you.
5.You will lose friends as you grow older.
Ive been learning to accept this as a part of life and a sign that youre maturing.
The haters will probably further distance themselves from you and will start giving you some weird vibes.
They might even leave your life altogether without any real explanation.
Or it may have even turned into an argument that got out of hand and you havent spoken since.
They might have been put in your life simply to teach you a lesson that needed to be learned.
6.You dont have to prove yourself to anyone.
7.No matter how much we worry, things tend to have a way of working themselves out.
How did they work out?
Didnt you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them?
Didnt most of them turn out all right after all?
I worried endlessly about my wedding day (as do most people).
I worried about the weather, about tripping as I walked down the aisle.
I worried about something going terribly wrong, but guess what happened?
Everything turned out to be absolutely perfect.
Did stuff go wrong?
8.Yourlife partnershould be your teammate.
Life isnt perfect, and no relationship ever will be.
You should both be putting in the effort to keep the spark alive.
9.Remind yourself that its just a bad day, not a bad life.
There will be some days when you feel alone, down on yourself, and lost.
I describe days like these as if Im living in a black hole or Im drowning.
Self-careis spending time in the sun.
Its seeing friends who make you laugh.
Its taking necessary alone time and unplugging from social media/news/your phone.
Its reading a book or taking a long, luxurious bath.
Every bad day will always pass, I promise.
The sun will rise again and tomorrow will come.
You will get out of that black hole; you will have better days.
For now, surround yourself with people who love you or take time to be alone and process.
Whatever you need, just do whats best for you.
10.Letting go is difficult butnecessary.
Ive had to let go of trying to make everyone happy when I discovered that its impossible.
Letting is so damn hard.
If you dont let go, you may become a resentful, hateful human being.
You will end up taking your pain out on others.
Start by letting go of anything bad that happened this year.
Shout it from a mountain top.
Talk to the moon about it.
Write it in the sand and let the ocean wash it away.
However you choose to do it, let it go, and set your sights on 2020.A blank slate.
Happy New Year, everyone.
May it bring you peace, happiness, adventures, growth opportunities, and beautiful memories.
