Learning how to be okay on your own.
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Updated 5 years ago,September 19, 2020
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The truth for a handful of people in their 20s nowadays ismore travel = success.
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I used to be onboard with this philosophy at 21.
Traveling makes you feel good, but it doesnt solve many things.
It doesnt linger within you when youre stressed out.
Defining what is important to you.
You only have less than 20 hours a day to make a difference in your life.
Which means you wont be able to do everything that is on your list of goals.
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Forget about being the best or the most popular or the greatest.
Trust me, its no fun constantly worrying about being number one 24/7.
Pay attention to those that bring life to your body.
And devote all your attention to them.
This is not true!
There are millions of ways that you’re able to do to figure yourself out.
And most of them are cheap.
Change comes from within.
Yes, your external surroundings can inspire you.
But completely change you?
Knowing what you dont like in life.
Disliking something or someone doesnt make you a horrible person.
Deciding not to talk to a person you dont feel comfortable with is okay.
Making a choice not to patronize a certain thing is not bad.
You dont have to force yourself to do something that you dont want to do.
The more honest you are to yourself, the more peaceful your mind will be.
Doing something that sparks your soul.
Climbing mountains, sailing the oceans, and stepping inside beautiful cities will definitely ignite something inside of you.
But so does cultivating your skills and learning how to make your craft better.
My grandma always says thattourist spots will never go away.
And time wasted is worse than missing out on some backpacking adventure.
You have the option of actively improving your situation now or keep roaming around the world.
Your 30s will ultimately tell you if youve made the right decision.
I swear its not that hard to search for friends that you’re able to trust.
I used to believe that I would make it into my 30s not having real friends.
But I was very wrong.
Because I have found people who are just like me.
The secret is that you have to open yourself up to the world.
Its going to be challenging at first.
But at least try.
Youll be surprised at whats going to happen when you allow people to come into your life.
Learning how to be okay on your own.
Silence is not scary.
Staying on your bed during weeknights or weekends isnt sad.
Its cool to be surrounded by people, but they will not be there all the time.
You have to learn to rely on yourself.
Its okay to not be present in every social gathering out there.
To not be the kind of person who has been to a dozen of countries.
Your fear of missing out will not kill you.
So stop checking on what everyones doing.
And instead, start caring about how you’re free to make yourself genuinely happy.
Working on your resume.
You cant complain about being broke and not earning much when youre not putting extra effort into your work.
Ive heard enough people whine about being underpaid to last a lifetime.
Evaluate your capabilities and check your resume if youve worked hard enough to be deserving of higher pay.
If youre feeling kind of doubtful, then its time to hustle some more.
I know being thrown in unfamiliar places improves your confidence and your instincts.
Talking to people who dont speak your language somehow makes you more sociable.
However, I also do know that facing your fears and not running away from them makes you stronger.
you’ve got the option to learn courage anywhere else, really.
You dont necessarily have to find it on the other side of the world.
Falling in love with yourself.
The most important thing that you could do in your 20s is to take good care of yourself.
Acceptance takes a lot of work.
Knowing how to love yourself requires time.
