If you want to have a better year next year, identify what brings you pride.
Identify your root motivations.
If you dislike someone, yet cant seem to stop hanging out with them, there is a reason.
If you want to lose weight, yet feel the need to keep overeating, there is a reason.
The human psyche is self-preserving.
Everything that we are doing we are doing because we think it is benefiting us in some way.
There is some core wound or belief or experience that is scaring you into repeating the behavior.
Figure out what need they are feeding, and learn to fill it another way.
Focus on their solutions.
If you want more money, you are making yourself feel as though you dont have it.
If you want a relationship, you are making yourself feel as though youre unloved.
Healing is just getting over your fears.
Getting over your fears is acting in spite of them.
Change is rebuilding the city, not sitting in the ruins.
Stop consuming toxic crap.
You know that saying you are what you eat?
Everything you put around you is conditioning you.
You are molding yourself into the person you will become with each of these actions, every single day.
If your fate is your character, then your habits are your destiny.
Stop eating unhealthy foods and expecting to feel good.
Stop sitting around your house scrolling on your phone and expecting to be productive and accomplished.
Stop hanging out with negative, draining people and expecting to feel positive and fulfilled.
Stop drinking yourself into an oblivion every weekend and wondering why youre stuck in life.
Its not a mystery.
Pretending it is keeps you in denial.
Stop waiting until you feel like it.
This is true if your intention is to take some time to yourself to reflect.
However, it is also a way that people avoid doing what they want and need to do.
Do you know how you heal yourself?
You start behaving differently.
You start thinking differently.
That is how you eradicate the life that you no longer want to live by building a new one.
Stop waiting until every wound is healed before you get back up and start again.
It is the doing that changes you, not idling.
It needs to feel good IRL.
Make enough time each day to do something other than bang out and scroll.
Read a book (a print copy).
Build or craft something.
Do anything that requires you to experience a range of sensations.
Busy means you dont know how to manage your time.
They are either trying to avoid themselves, or avoid other people.
Both lead to nothing.
Schedule your hours mindfully.
Work better, but less.
Leave hours open for people you care about.
Leave hours open for yourself.
Create a life that overwhelms you with peace, not mindless chatter.
There is no merit in being busy.
It says nothing about your status in life other than that you are worried you dont have any.
Make daily decisions for your long-term goals, not short-term desires.
Most people live within a few hours long mental bandwidth.
This is to say, they make choices based on their immediate desires, fears and ideas.
When you choose what you want for lunch, you think: What am I in the mood for?
It is so easy for fleeting feelings to override logic, but we pay for it in the end.
We forget that someday is today, and the future is created right now.
Choose goals with your mortality in mind.
Hell, imagine looking at your life even just 10 years from now.
What would you wish you had done today?
Will you be happy that your greatest accomplishment was your appearance, or being someone who intimidates others?
Or will you wish that you had let go and done something meaningful something you felt called to?
Stop wasting your time evaluating the lives of people you dislike or disagree with.
Okay, we get it.
You dont understand why so-and-so did what they did.
You disagree with their behavior.
You would have done better.
You did do better.
You wont show them empathy.
You dislike them as a whole.
You dont see the full picture because you cant.
You dont know that had you been in someone elses exact situation you wouldnt have behaved similarly.
But all you have done here is illustrate the depth of your ego.
And people do this all of the time.
Gossip is a sustaining social life force a lot of the time.
Wake up and ask yourself every day: What can I do today that will change my life forever?
Every single day, you have the potential to change your life forever.
So many of us waste that on doing something that pacifies fear.
The answers will surprise you.
