Pay your own bills.
Or, if you cant, learn to manage your finances.
I really enjoy my own company.
God&Man
Sitting in a quiet place and watching life pass me by is one of my favorite things to do.
So I thought of all the things I learned to do alone over the years.
Take yourself out on a date.
Whether in a relationship or not, some days you just need shameless indulgence.
Lavish attention on yourself like the best of suitors.
Do what youd do on an average first date.
God&Man
Put on your favorite bra.
Spritz on the special perfume.
Wear make up if you like, but see to it you feel good about yourself.
Because, guess what, you deserve it.
Eat at a fancy restaurant, or take a leisurely walk around the neighborhood, whatever floats your boat.
And when the day is over, look in the mirror and thank yourself for a wonderful time.
Go to the beach.
Dont worry about sunscreen and ugly tans for a while.
Sit in the shallow waves and let the salt wash away all the heaviness in your heart.
Forget about taking pictures or documenting the sunset.
Make the most of your solitude.
Not having to share your beer is just a bonus.
Join a class or pursue a hobby just because you want to.
So, for a change, join a class alone.
Or take up those YouTube DIY projects.
Do it all by yourself, for the joy it gives you and nothing else.
It doesnt matter if it is a piano class or a how to paint your nails tutorial.
As long as it makes you happy, do it.
If youre uncomfortable with the idea of sitting alone, take a book with you.
Disconnect from your phone and laptop though.
Tune out the pitying glances from strangers a meal doesnt need moral support.
Dont fence yourself in.
Travel to a place youve never been.
Going solo can be an overwhelming experience at first.
But then youll realize theres a whole world of opportunities, and youre your own mapmaker.
Lose your way at night.
Drive around aimlessly and turn that GPS off.
Get lost if you must.
Then find your way back through the dusty lanes and trees you never had time to look at.
Cities come alive at night; its a different world after sundown.
And we only ever spend time driving back with friends or rushing home after a long day of work.
You may just lose yourself.
You may just find yourself.
Look at them, and tell yourself its okay.
You dont have to pretend to love them.
Self-love is hard in theory, even hard to practice.
Make a list of all your virtues.
Tell yourself youre shit when you deserve that.
If you make a mistake, shake yourself up.
You must admit youre letting yourself down.
Sometimes, you oughta be your strictest critic.
Pay your own bills.
Or, if you cant, learn to manage your finances.
Not only is this an invaluable life skill, it could also make or break you in the future.
As much as it hurts to admit, the one thing that holds the world together is money.
Youll need it irrespective of what you choose to make of your life.
And the price of dignity can potentially cost you your confidence and your future.
Without worrying about what youre expected to feel.
Let the moment youre in get under your skin.
Stay put for a while.
Touch the walls or the tree trunks, whatever the case may be, and marvel at their texture.
Feel the place, and let it move you.
Zone out, and tune in to yourself.
Solitude is a wonderful companion.
