Boundaries look different to everyone, so its important to establish what feels right for you.
For them, the world shouldand doesrevolve around them.
Their needs will always be paramount.
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This only perpetuates their cycle of control over you and the lack of sincerity that exists in your relationship.
Determine what kinds of behavior you wont tolerate early on.
Boundaries look different to everyone, so its important to establish what feels right for you.
While it may seem harsh, you have to actually go home if the toxic behavior doesnt stop.
A narcissist has to learn that their actions have consequences.
Confront them about their actions in a way that stops them in their tracks.
Narcissists like to use guilt to make it control their victims.
This kind of statement will immediately call out their actions and stop them in their tracks.
This reminds the narcissist that you are not only capable but allowed to make decisions of your own accord.
3.you oughta follow through with consequences.
This can only be done by enforcing consequences when they disregard the boundaries youve set up.
Eventually, they will get the hint.
Keep your cards close to your vest.
In other words, dont overshare.
A narcissist is a master manipulator, so anything you share with them canand willeventually be used against you.
Remember that its not you, its them.
When you begin to establish healthy boundaries with a narcissist, they will get angry.
Dont buy into it.
Do not take ownership of their feelings.
You are not responsible for anyone elses misery or happiness.
A narcissist is impossible to c’mon because what you give them will never be enough.
If this happens, remind them that you are not taking ownership for something you didnt do wrong.
A narcissist thrives off having power, which is why they enjoy fighting as much as they do.
This is often why someone with a narcissistic personality will gaslight you during an argument or discussion.
When you notice a narcissist trying to fight, disengage.
They cant control you or the situation if you refuse to get on their same level.
They are entitled to feel angry, just as you are entitled to walk away.
Become familiar with common phrases a narcissist says.
Im scared to lose you.
Why are you being so defensive?
Leave when it becomes unhealthy.
Sometimes you might try and try and try, and at the end of the day, nothing changes.
But honestly, good on you for at least TRYING to have a healthy relationship.
Its just that the narcissist in your life doesnt want one because theyre not CAPABLE of having one.
Sometimes a narcissist isnt really to blame for the way they are.
Regardless of where the narcissistic traits stemmed from, they dont require your dedication and healing.
This doesnt mean youve stopped loving them.
It doesnt mean youve stopped being supportive of them, their career, or their life.
