A real balanced man shows up when it’s not easy.
He shows up when you’re not easy.
I can tell you with complete certainty thats just not true.
Patrick Beznoska
I see great men pretty much everywhere I look.
I have a bunch of really incredible men on my case load who are single and looking.
They give the species a bad name.
Patrick Beznoska
These men are unbalanced, immature and self- absorbed.
However, lets face it, there are also unstable, immature and self-absorbed women playing the game also.
She had a track record of attracting men who couldnt pull their weight financially or emotionally.
She simply could not see the signs.
So, here is a cheat sheet for being able to identify a real life grown up balanced man.
A balanced grown up man wants his woman to be happy.
He will do what he can to make her happy and keep her that way.
Its biological for men.
They are protectors and providers.
I know that sounds outdated.
I get that old fashioned gender rolls dont always roll in our society now.
A balanced grown up man can take care of himself.
Stating the obvious, a grown up man is not looking for a mommy.
Yes, of course, people who are in relationships do things for each other.
They take care of each other as an act of love.
A grown up man isnt looking for a maid, a nanny, or a cook.
A grown up man knows hes not done growing.
A grown up man isnt forever reliving his glory days.
He might wear his college jersey and watch the football game on Saturday afternoon.
He may even go out with his college buddies.
However, he is also focused on his personal development.
He grows and learns.
A grown up man keeps his eye on the future.
Men are builders by nature.
A healthy man has an instinct to create something for himself and his family.
He will stretch himself to build and evolve.
A balanced grown up man is sober.
He isnt indulging his addictions.
He doesnt play with fire.
He might have a drink or two, but hes not a drunk.
He probably pops a handful of vitamins, but hes not popping pills.
He loves seeing a beautiful woman, but hes not hiding from his life through porn.
A grown up man is not being an addict.
That doesnt mean he never had an addiction.
It simply means he chooses to be sober and lives life his life feeling his emotions.
He doesnt need to numb himself to get through the day.
A grown up man knows how to communicate and can manage his anger with hostility.
Sure, he gets mad.
However, his anger never leaves his partner feeling afraid, abused, or damaged.
A balanced man can own his feelings.
He can express them, even the ugly ones with love and consideration.
A grown up man can and will talk.
He might not talk on command if hes not ready, but he willalways come back to the table.
A healthy balanced man will pursue, and he can commit.
A balanced man doesnt leave you wondering if hes into you.
He will show you with his actions that hes into you.
He can talk about the future and include you in that.
In fact, he may instigate them.
He knows himself well enough to speak maturely about the pace of relationship and timing.
A healthy grown up man is secure enough to be generous.
He is generous with his time and doesnt play games with money.
However, the thing to know is hes generous with everyone.
You may not get all his time and attention.
But he never leaves you feeling hungry or makes you feel needy.
A real man has a history of being able to do relationship.
He has relationships with friends and family that have stood the test of time.
He may not be close to every member of his family.
However, he will have relationships that have history.
There are people in his life who love him.
There are people in his life who are protective of him.
A grown up man is not a jealous and controlling dick.
He doesnt need to own you.
He wants you to have a life and doesnt want to supervise it.
A healthy man isnt looking sideways at you when you talk to another man.
He doesnt get mad when you go out with your girlfriends, even if youre late.
He wont freak out if your ex-emails or calls.
A grown up man does not isolate you.
A real balanced man shows up when its not easy.
He shows up when youre not easy.
He mans up when the plumbing needs fixing.
He will go to your sisters wedding with you and sit next to you at your grandmas funeral.
He doesnt run for the hills when youre PMSing.
He would never shame you for being emotional.
In fact, he secretly kind of loves it.
He will laugh with you and hold you when youre crying for no reason.
He just shows up.
This is a man who does not ditch out when the going gets tough.
He shows up and shines.
