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Updated 7 years ago,June 11, 2018
Relationships are tough.
Its difficult to know when to keep trying and when to let go.
When youre in the middle of a situation its hard to see it clearly.
Jesse Herzog
Here are some definitive reasons to end things:
1.
You feel disconnected and nothing fixes it.
Once upon a time, the two of you were very close.
You thought that nothing and no one could ever alter that idyllic situation.
Unfortunately, life goes on and people change.
Maybe youve even tried getting outside help but it hasnt improved your dynamic.
Some relationships arent meant to last forever.
You have no desire to try anymore.
The true romance isnt in the sweet, mushy honeymoon phase.
You envision different outcomes for the future.
You might not have previously discussed the future, or your desires may have changed over time.
Either way, a similar idea of where your lives should progress is essential.
If you arent going the same way, you wont make your relationship work long term.
This is where constant communication and honesty come into play.
you should probably check in with each other frequently and establish that youre on the same page.
If you are not, dont ignore that or hope that it goes away.
You dont match up on the non-negotiables.
Often, though, that doesnt happen.
No matter your method of approach, you have to deal with them eventually.
You cant simply hope that your partner will change their mind and come around to what you want.
It is possible for that to happen, but its never guaranteed.
If neither of you wants to compromise, you should let go before youre even more deeply attached.
You dont trust each other.
Its nearly impossible to keep a relationship healthy without trust.
You must address the issues at hand and do it expediently.
You cant reach emotional intimacy.
Maybe you (or your partner) never learned how to open up and trust another person.
Maybe that ability was there at one time, but trauma or pain stunted and warped it.
There is an infinite number of factors that affect your level of emotional maturity and self-awareness.
Whatever the case may be, the issue is still present.
Move on to something more fulfilling.
You have more bad times than good.
There will be imperfections in any relationship, but if it sucks more often than not, take note.
The good should always outweigh the bad otherwise, what are you even doing?
Theres no point in staying in something if you believe that youd be happier out of it.
Just like with any other issue, communication is key here.
The two of you must have a conversation about whats happening and whether it is resolvable or not.
Release each other from the misery you might even be relieved when its over.
You dont have sex and you dont care.
Its normal for sex to taper off after the beginning of a relationship.
Your sex life goes through phases of highs and lows as you spend the years together.
Maintaining a healthy physical connection is, like everything else, a matter of effort and hard work.
Its not always, well, sexy.
If you arent attracted to your partner anymore, theres a deeper problem.
Maybe you dont actually want to be with them … and in that case, you shouldnt.
You avoid working through problems.
Be real with yourself.
Maybe you just arent fully committed to this particular relationship.
Maybe you have a long history of avoidance issues, and maybe its related to the past.
Thats reasonable we all have baggage.
Even so, you are both adults now and its your responsibility to work through your personal hang-ups.
Separate and take the time to heal and grow you both owe it to yourselves.
You only stay because its more comfortable than leaving.
This happens a lot, so dont beat yourself up.
This is the worst and perhaps the most common reason for staying with someone when you should leave.
It sucks, but its far better for everyone in the long run.
