Start speaking to yourself kindly.
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Updated 4 years ago,September 20, 2021
Theres nothing inherently wrong with being validated by others.
In fact, its great.
Daria Shevtsova
It just becomes problematic when thats your only source of being affirmed.
Instead, its important to strengthen your self-validation game.
Here are 10 ways to do that:
- it’s possible for you to be honest with yourself about your shortcomings as well as your successes.
During the whole journey, you’re free to be mindful of what you brought to the table.
Start speaking to yourself kindly.I know, this sounds easier said than done.
Its possible, though!
Start with small mantras to feel better about yourself that feel genuine to you.
These are ways to provide validation to yourself.
Let your emotions and feelings be what they are.Its so easy to want to change feelings.
Especially if youre feeling sad you may have a go at cover it in positivity.
So, let your emotions and feelings be what they are.
Give them space to breathe and run their course.
All things shift and end.
Ask yourself what you need.At any given time what do you need?
it’s possible for you to treat yourself like a child if thats helpful.
Speak to yourself as lovingly as you would a small human.
Slow down enough to look inward in this way.
Then go ahead and give yourself what you need.
Celebrate your victories.When you do something well be sure to celebrate that!
Youre awesome and youre deserving of your own celebration.
No victory is too small to celebrate.
Celebrate how you want!
That feeling when you read a quote that just hits the spot is a great one.
Its one way to validate yourself with the help of someone else.
Use their spark to ignite yours.
Youre still doing the work.
Surround yourself with inspirational people.When you surround yourself with inspirational people youre more likely to be inspired yourself.
Theyll remind you to validate yourself because theyre validating themselves.
Positive folks around you will keep you doing healthy habits like remembering to care for yourself.
Then youre taking that action.
Its confirming that youre a worthwhile human being who loves themselves.
Turn to praise instead of shame.Its so easy for many people to jump right to shaming themselves.
You feel youre bad, stupid, and a messed up person.
This is not the kind of language you want to use when youre trying to validate yourself.
Instead of that, try praising yourself for what you did do right and the fact that you tried.
Tell yourself youre actually doing just fine.
Things often turn out ways we dont plan and maybe didnt ask for.
