And yes, maybe that reality is subjective, culturally and generationally specific, and all the rest.
In theory, I believe this advice is pretty childish.
Does it really matter who asks whom out?
He’s Just Not That Into You
(And based on gender ofallthings?!)
But the answer in practice… it depends.
But lets be real, not only is that unprovable, its a pretty lame excuse.
I could be wrong, thoughguys are weird.
2.Hes just not that into you if hes not calling you.
And its not just calling thats up for consideration, but the overused communication method we call texting.
Stop calling, stop texting, and soon enough youll have your answer.
3.Hes just not that into you if hes not dating you.
Or maybe its just a booty call.
4.Hes just not that into you if hes not having sex with you.
So again, this advice depends heavily on the values and perspectives of those involved.
5.Hes just not that into you if hes having sex with someone else.
I would love to give a simple black-and-white absolutely to this one.
But unfortunately, life isnt so black and white.
But its also complicated.
People cheat for different reasons, but in that moment, they choose to ignore their partners feelings.
As much as Id love to say cheating proves someone isnt into you, it doesnt always.
It does, however, suggest the person might not be worth your timethats for you to figure out.
6.Hes just not that into you if he only wants to see you when hes drunk.
Take your heels and run, lest you become the booty call.
7.Hes just not that into you if he doesnt want to marry you.
This one is tough.
We all know someone who dated someoneforeverand then broke up, only to marry someone else within months.
While the book insists love cures commitment-phobia, I think its more about shared values.
Maybe someone is really into you but doesnt believe in marriage.
Then its a question of whether youre okay with that.
But dont believe it’s possible for you to change someone because youre dating them.
Most of the time, you cant.
For me, this would be my cue to bid the dude bon voyage.
8.Hes just not that into you if hes breaking up with you.
Whats even less fun is seeing someone not accept that theyve been broken up with.
Theres no way around this one (apart from getting back together, I suppose).
If hes said he doesnt want to be with you anymore, hes just not that into you.
It might be you, it might be him, or it might be both of you.
Either way, let it go.
9.Hes just not that into you if hes disappeared on you.
preserve your dignity and never talk about him again.
10.Hes just not that into you if hes married (or otherwise unavailable).
But life isnt always black and white.
Still, sometimes you have to put your principles ahead of your feelings.
Stop wondering if hes into you and get out.
This should be obvious, but I constantly hear ridiculous dating stories that leave me speechless.
Anyone who makes you feel less thanwhen they should make you feel greatershouldnt even be considered.
If hes a selfish jerk, bully, or freak, hes not just not into youhes terrible.
