You havent found love in yourself yet.
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Updated 5 years ago,September 6, 2020
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You havent found love in yourself yet.
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Are you in love with yourself?
Thats the most important question to ask yourself.
Maybe you havent spent enough time with yourself.
Its hard to find love when you havent found love within.
When you love yourself, you know what you deserve and you refuse to settle for less.
Learn to love all the parts of yourself, even your imperfections.
Give yourself love before you seek it from another.
That way, youll only accept real love.
Youre afraid of love.
You cant get what you fear.
A lot of us fear what we want the most.
If we live this way, how can we attract whats good for us?
If we live this way, how can we ever get what is best for us?
Perhaps youve been heartbroken before.
Perhaps youre scared of being vulnerable because you dont want to get hurt.
Perhaps you dont want to risk losing it all again.
But did you really lose it all when there is so much more to gain?
You lost what wasnt for you.
you oughta learn to get rid of the fear so that love can grow and thrive.
Throw water on the seed, not fear.
Youre not giving anyone a chance.
How will you find love if youre not giving anyone a chance?
You may be afraid to give anyone a chance because you fear choosing someone who isnt for you.
You may fear choosing someone who is wrong for your heart.
you better let go of control.
You cant see the future.
However, you could see the red flags.
When you notice red flags, dont stay.
Instead, you must leave.
you oughta give people a chance to make it see what color the flags are, though.
verify youre not trying to paint green flags red.
And, you shouldnt want to.
You shouldnt love someones potential.
Sometimes, we see the good that a person can be, but they have to see it themselves.
You cant force it on them.
Some things will change, but you cant force it.
It has to be natural.
There is someone out there who is for you.
You wont find love if you take a stab at force anyone to give it to you.
Someone who is for you will willingly give it to you without you having to constantly ask.
Their mouth wont just speak it.
Their actions will show it.
Youre too focused on finding a partner.
If youre not living your own life, then youre not working on being your best self.
When you revolve everything around finding the one, you wont find the highest form of love that way.
The highest form of love wants you to be your best self.
Youre not setting boundaries.
Its important to let the other person know your boundaries and to enforce them.
At that point, its intentional.
You think that youll find someone who is perfect.
No one is perfect.
We have to remember that everyone is human.
Your partner is human.
Youre not building a robot to fit your every single need.
You will find someone who is perfect for you, but they wont be this perfect being.
We all come with flaws.
Youre too closed off.
This one is simple: you better be vulnerable if you want to find love.
Dont be afraid of being open.
Youre too focused on the surface.
Love is an intangible force.
If youre heavily focused on what lies on the surface, you wont find love.
Are you even looking for love if thats all you are concerned with?
If youre only choosing people based on their appearance and material possessions, then youre not loving their soul.
Therefore, you arent really looking for love.
Love lives in the soul always.
You jump into situations too quickly without thinking about whats best for you.
Sometimes you want love so bad that its tempting to jump into the arms of someoneanyone.
You cant do that.
This will never give you what you need in love.
Before jumping into anything, its important to think about whats important to you.
Do you share the same interests?
Do both of you elevate on the same level mentally, spiritually, and emotionally?
Its draining to constantly have to wait for the other person to catch up to you.
Youre being emptied and youre not getting filled up.
Dont settle for this kind of love.
Real love will help you grow.
If you settle for anything else, youll never be fulfilled.
Go towards what fills you up.
Its all about reciprocation.
Youre afraid of rejection.
Go after what you want.
If you want to find love, youre going to run into what isnt love.
Whenever something rejects you, youre only getting redirected to love.
