Before you get on the date
Yes, this one is actually before you go on that first date.
Once you agreed to go on a date with that person, set the time/date.
What I strongly recommend you do leading up to that special day is find a way to communicate.
If you meet him/her in person, maybe you already have his/her phone number.
Guys, call her up.
Get to know her more.
Im sure she appreciates it.
If you meet that person online, you might not want to share your phone number just yet.
you could chat more via the messaging feature on that dating site.
Thats the best way to get to know each other more.
Its like preparing each day for a test.
Its like cramping all studies in one night for the test the next day.
Needless to say, it didnt go well.
Trust me, you could tell.
I trusted my gut feeling and I think I saved myself time.
And finally, that first date comes.
Here is what I recommend you do:
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Dress up…appropriately
A guy or gal, you should dress up at least a bit.
It depends on where you decide to meet, dress accordingly.
Nice, but not overwhelmingly so!
Just a whiff of great scent takes you a long way, trust me.
It shows that you respect your date to show up with your best self.
Do not underestimate the importance of a first impression.
Plan your commute, traffic, parking time, etc.
Its always better to be early.
Getting there ahead of time gives you the opportunity to calm down your nerves and look more relaxed.
For guys: show chivalry is not dead
This is an opportunity for you to shine.
initiate the door for her, pull out a chair for her, take her coat, etc.
And girls, let him do it!
It sounds easy but it still needs adjustment.
I myself still have to remind myself to let him do it.
After doing everything myself all my life, I am not used to being taken care of.
But these small gestures are so sweet.
It makes courting fun.
Easy on your drinks
I dont drink, so its not a problem for me.
But Im sure most of you do.
Limit your drinks to two, thats it.
Girls, even if you plan to split the check, always assume that a guy will pay.
So, be mindful of the size of the bill.
So go for it!
But, like I mentioned about drinks, be mindful of what you order.
see to it its not the most expensive item on the menu.
And dont be too picky about your order.
You want to appear hard to get but easy to c’mon.
High-maintenance is always a turn-off.
And dont pick on the other persons food unless you get approval to do so.
One time, I went on a first date with this guy.
Somehow he felt so comfortable that he started picking on my food too.
We werent even feeling that much of chemistry.
So, no, he didnt get a second date.
Maybe ask him/her more about that hobby s/he does.
Be flirty but attentive.
double-check you keep eye contact and pay attention to what s/he is saying.
Keep the conversation going.
But if somehow you feel like you are uncomfortable with silence, dont force a conversation to come out.
It probably means you guys are not clicking as you expected you would.
And thats ok.
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Its like an icebreaker.
Another idea is to leave that restaurant and go get dessert somewhere else.
It gives you guys a break from sitting down in that post for so long.
Walking side by side after getting to know each other a bit more also makes the date less stressful.
I dont care what anyone says or what youve read anywhere.
A gentleman always pays on a first date, always.
And girls, always offer to split the bill.
I always offer to split the bill or at least pay for dessert later or put in a tip.
Trust me, if you want to see her again, most likely she feels the same too.
And she definitely wants you to make the move and say it.
Give each other a good hug and say goodbye.
My rule is no kissing (on lips anyway) on a first date.
Its very nice meeting you.
I know exactly where it does.
Maybe we can try it next time?
A guy with common sense will pick that up and will ask you for it if hes interested.
If he doesnt, oh well, hes not meant to be and you know sooner than later.
I hope you get the second date.
But finding someone who reciprocates the same feelings you do is not easy.
So, dont beat yourself up if he/she doesnt feel the same way.
