Toxic relationships make you feel good.
Because it is a comedy, the skit about this couple was a bit over the top.
Its because toxic relationships are addictive and one of the most difficult to leave.
The skit of Meegan and Andre has been viewed over 1.5 million times.
And the reason why is two-fold.
Its funny to watch, but also relatable.
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If you are wondering why its so tricky, youre not alone.
They often start off the relationship very strong.
There is a term for it.
They love bomb the shit out of you.
Wikipedia even has a page breaking love bombing down in great detail.
You are showered with affection and attention, something that feels very good and is difficult to resist.
Love bombing is not only abundant in toxic relationships, but in cults too.
And its usually on their terms.
There give many excuses as to why they cant commit or why they disappear then reappear.
It can be so convincing, and they are so persuasive that some of these reasons may seem justifiable.
If this is happening in your relationship, you are more than likely being love bombed.
3.They play on your securities and insecurities which can confuse the heck out of you.
They are ambiguous about commitment, next steps and shift the blame to you when things go wrong.
And what does this make you want to do?
Men are often pegged as hunters because its said they enjoy the chase of pursuing a woman.
Its human nature to be interested in someone who is a little harder to get.
However, swings of interest, then disinterest, are not indicative of a healthy relationship.
Its confusing emotionally, because in your logical mind you know its nonsense.
Controlling and manipulating you is a space in which they are most comfortable.
Realize that if you have emotional attachment issues, you better be especially careful of toxic relationships.
Being with someone like this will only deepen your emotional trauma.
4.Its freakin challenging to leave a toxic relationship.
Consistency, consideration of your feelings, and mutual respect will also be a part of this list.
Are they there for you in a real and meaningful way?
5.Sometimes dysfunction becomes functional.
Toxic relationships start innocently enough.
They push your buttons; you push theirs.
This dynamic can create some intense physical chemistry.
And at first, you may shake off what could be emotionally or psychological abuse.
6.Toxic relationships are addictive.
Oxytocin is released each time you physically connect with them which further strengthens your connection to them.
Hence, dysfunction becomes functional.
7.Its all you know.
Sometimes its hard to tell if you are in a toxic relationship especially if this is all you know.
Unfortunately, no one teaches you to learn to cultivate a healthy and loving relationship.
We get our examples via our parents or others we observe who are in relationships.
It takes real effort and self-education to determine what constitutes a healthy relationship.
But, if you are reading and researching to figure this out, you know something isnt quite right.
8.You feel like you dont deserve more.
Its true that we teach others what we will accept from them.
If you think you deserve less, you will settle for less.
9.What you see you often repeat.
Well address that later on.
10.You have a fear of the unknown.
This expression is often used to justify staying within our comfort zones.
And it really can come into play when you are in a toxic relationship.
If you are in a relationship with a devil, why hang out with the devil at all?
11.You get some level of intimacy and temporary from this person.
I understand it can be hard to leave something that feels good.
And I know you may have a fear of loneliness.
You may even yearn for some level of a feeling of intimacy which a toxic relationship may temporarily satisfy.
Find a local mental health counselor, or call a hotline if you need some help.
