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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
Toxic perfectionism doesnt mean youre always perfect.
It doesnt mean you only got As in school.
You judge yourself harshly when you fall short of your (very high) standards.
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Being a straight-up high school bully to yourself.
You constantly deal with a voice in your head that tells you you arent good enough.
Bragging about not getting enough sleep.
To prioritize rest is anathema to someone who struggles with toxic perfectionism.
Any moment you are not working towards a goal is a moment that makes you feel guilty.
Sleep, and other needs every human has, are viewed as a weakness that you somehow dont deserve.
Being obsessed with buying new planners or organization decor.
You get a high off of scheduling and organizing and setting goals.
Its your favorite part of any project.
This is a fantasy of toxic perfectionism.
No human has this kind of robotic control over their life.
Punishing yourself for being average.
You feel guilty doing anything just ok.
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Having a fitness or food obsession.
Both also lend themselves to easily being hijacked by toxic perfectionism.
Toxic perfectionism tells you that slow progress isnt good enough.
Constantly looking at your own social media feeds.
It no longer feels fun or light-hearted to log on.
Feeling distracted in the moment during social events because of social media.
Its the voice that says you are what people think about you.
Spending too much money on the wrong things.
You never say no to a vacation or picking up a round of drinks with your friends.
Either you have a gigantic budget or toxic perfectionism is coming for your bank account.
Inability to tolerate being disliked or misunderstood.
Toxic perfectionism makes us hyper aware of how we are perceived by others.
For someone who suffers from toxic perfectionism, being misunderstood is intolerable.
