You’re not even disappointed when they cancel plans.
Sometimes you’re relieved.
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Updated 8 years ago,June 16, 2017
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You have difficulty falling asleep.
At night, the thoughts we tend to effectively silence during the day pop back up.
Down deep, you know it isnt right.
And its ruining your sleep schedule.
You dont speak up when they do something that bothers you.
And thats because you dont trust this persons reaction.
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Youd rather just stay quiet and push things aside.
Things never go away, they just get buried.
Trust me, stuffalwaysrises to the surface.
You dont ask for what you want sexually.
I mean, dont get me wrong, itsawesome.
But its also incredibly vulnerable.
Not being sexually satisfied isnt necessarily a sign youre with the wrong person.
But not feeling comfortable enough to talk about it?
The right partner wants to make you feel good.
The right person is also someone youre able to communicate with about those specific needs.
You never hang out with them and your friends at the same time.
You keep things very separate.
Could it be because youre afraid your friends will see something you dont want to admit?
Maybe youre looking to avoid opinions you arent ready to face.
You feel drained after being with them.
You walk away from time together exhausted, not energized.
It feels more like an obligation rather than something you look forward to.
Youre not even disappointed when they cancel plans.
You only dress for them.
You wear what they like, not whatyoupersonally enjoy.
It sounds materialistic, but style is one of the ways we express ourselves.
If youre trying to impress them without ever taking your own taste into account, thats worrisome.
Wanting to look good for someone youre digging is one thing.
Abandoning the stuff you enjoy just because they dont?
Youre always trying to justify the relationship.
Youre an expert at making excuses for behavior.
Your natural stance is one of defense.
ME THINKS THE LADY/MAN DOTH PROTEST TOO MUCH.
For real, youre trying too hard.
It shouldnt feel like some prepared Power Point presentation that youre showing everyone hoping theyll jump onboard.
It should be natural.
You have very different long-term goals.
Its not super romantic to say, but love isnt enough.
Relationships require commitment and compatibility.
If you both want drastically different things, this is probably the wrong person to invest your heart in.
You neglect your passions.
A relationship is not enough to sustain a person.
you better cultivate your own interests.
Ask yourself,why have I stopped doing this thing I love?
You feel like something is off.
Sounds simplistic, but never forget how important it is to listen to your gut.
Even if it doesnt always make sense or feel like something you’re able to fully understand.
Your gut tends to be right.
So if something feels off, it probably is.
