You landed that new job?
You graduated from college?
It always has to be about them.
Lucas Pezeta
They see you as a full extension of themselves and not as a separate individual.
They strive to mold you intowho they want you to be, rather than considering your needs and wants.
Ignore you, your feelings, your accomplishments, and have very little interest in your life overall.
They dont do things for you out of the kindness of their heart because they are completely self-absorbed.
And theyll want recognition whenever they do anything for you, no matter how insignificant.
It Is Always About Them
You landed that new job?
You graduated from college?
They hardly ever listen to you, and can be pretty absent from your life.
They think the world revolves around them.
They Lack Empathy
A narcissistic parent really only cares about their feelings and thoughts.
They dont take your needs into consideration but always expect you to be available.Your independence freaks them out.
They will make you feel guilty if you havent called them in a few days.
Some narcissistic parents may also have a go at make their adult children codependent by enabling irresponsible behavior.
They ignore the fact that THEY are the parent and ask/expect a lot more from you than they should.
Theyll use various guilt trip tactics like manipulation and blaming so that they get what they want from you.
They Will Ignore Your Boundaries
Some narcissistic parents will ignore your boundaries and smother you.
They constantly want your attention and dont respect your space.
They become upset if they feel as though you dont spend enough time with them.
They Gaslight You
Gaslightingis a manipulation tactic someone will use to gain control or power over you.
They will even play the victim or make false accusations about you.
They want you to second-guess yourself.
They want you to get caught in their frustrating web of drama and deceit.
This includes taking care of them and constantly asking about their lives and how theyre doing.
But in their eyes, they believe they give and do a whole lot for you.
They want praise for that false reality, too.
Put simply, its their world and you just live in it.
It is a vicious cycle that never ends well, no matter how hard you try.
They are never the ones to blame, it is always you or someone else who is the problem.
They Are Inflexible
A narcissistic parent most likelydoesnt have the ability to changehis or her behavior.
One reason for this inflexibility and touchiness is the desire to control you.
They will exert love for you when you follow what they want or are proving your worth to them.
But they will easily withdraw that love if you fail to do what they want.
The narcissist responds negatively when they realize you will not always be pulled by their strings.
They Throw The Best Pity Parties
They always want everyone to feel bad for them because they are attention-seekers.
Narcissistic parents only do this because they may feel threatened by your success or potential.
Dont wait for their validation on anything because youll never receive it.
Most people who were raised by a narcissistic mother or father:
Have trust issues and very low self-esteem.
Tend to suffer from anxiety or depression and have difficulty expressing or handling emotions.
Tend to always try and kindly everyone and often seek validation in most decisions they make.
Are codependent in other relationships and have a weak sense of self, wants, needs, and goals.
Use their accomplishments as a way to define their ownself-worth.
Begin taking the steps to get there and dont let anyone tear you down.
And be proud of everything youve accomplished so far.
There are many people in your life who love you and support you.
Surround yourself with those individuals who give you love, laughter, and warmth.
Confide in friends and other loved ones about your experiences.
Opening up and talking about it helps with the healing process.
You are not alone in your struggles.
Learn to saynoand remember you cant always yo everyone.
You have to do whats best for you.
Learn how to move forward and use your past to only make youstronger.
