Its not your fault that you fell for someone who listened to you and actually cared.
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Updated 4 years ago,February 26, 2021
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Its not your fault that you fell for someone who listened to you and actually cared.
God & Man
That doesnt happen often in this self-obsessed, busy world.
You found a kindred spirit who gave you something your heart not only craved but intrinsically needed.
It nourished your soul and thus you mistook it for love.
Its an easy mistake to make.
It isnt your fault that they have emotional issues.
Interactions between humans are often confusing.
Its all about perception, so dont feel bad that you mistook someones friendliness for love.
Its easy to do.
If that person had been very honest and clear with you, you wouldnt be confused.
Next time youre better off asking what you should probably know no matter how scary that might be.
Its natural to develop an attraction to someone who compliments you and appears to think highly of you.
Everyone likes to feel good about themselves.
Perhaps this person laid it on so thick that you assumed there was something more there.
You cant control someone elses emotions or read their mind.
This is the scary and risky problem with falling in love.
If the two of you arent communicating, its quite easy to mistake many other things for affection.
If they dont communicate that to you, theres no way that you know whats going on.
Dont beat yourself up for thinking they wanted more than they did.
This is so commonly mistaken for real love that its almost laughable.
Its additionally confusing because all relationships do tend to carry a bit of interdependence with them.
You think youre flirting and falling for each other.
They think youre just having a good time.
Its annoying but it happens quite a bit.
What they may assume is simple, harmless conversation could look like the beginnings of something real to you.
Its complicated, and you cant get upset at yourself for confusing the issue.
Unfortunately, its rampant and narcissists are very good at manipulating other people, sometimes without even realizing it.
Its incredibly difficult to tell whats going on under the surface.
All you could do is save yourself before its too late.
They figure, well, this person is into me and Im bored, so why not?
Its incredibly insensitive and selfish.
Do you deserve better?
Of course, you do.
Its not your fault that they intentionally misled you for their own gain.
Its already hurtful, so dont add to the pain by giving yourself additional grief.
They probably hope you wont find out, but thats an unreasonable expectation.
You have to do your best to let it go while knowing you couldnt have prevented it.
You thought that someone genuinely cared about you, but in fact, they were using you.
Its incredibly common, and again, you shouldnt beat yourself up for having optimism.
Youre out there attempting to make a real human connection.
Thats a beautiful, brave undertaking.
Dear, sweet, human, dont give up hope.
There is nothing more beautiful than someone who keeps on trying after being let down time and again.
