When a narcissist’s words are translated into their actual meaning, the results are frankly disturbing.
Here are twelve common phrases narcissists use and what they actually mean.
notes, Current thought challenges the notion that narcissists secretly suffer from low self-esteem or insecurity.
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Or that they suffer as much as we thought in the ways that we thought.
Recent findings indicate they take pleasure in successful manipulations.
Putting down unsuspecting, soft-hearted souls in their midst is a sport.
They truly believe in their superiority even if objective evidence does not back it up.
In fact, to decode a narcissists language requires listening more to their actions than their words.
Translation:I love owning you.
I love controlling you.
I love using you.
When I flatter you, I can have anything I want.
You open up so easily, even after youve already beenmistreated.
Once youre hooked and invested, Ill pull the rug beneath your feet just to watch you fall.
I am sorry you feel that way.
Translation:Sorry,not sorry.
Lets get this argument over with already so I can continue my abusive behavior in peace.
I am not sorry that I did what I did, I am sorry I got caught.
I am sorry youre calling me out.
I am sorry that I am being held accountable.
I am sorry you have the emotions that you do.
Let megaslight yousome more so you second-guess yourself.
Emotionally invalidating you is the key to keeping you compliant.
So long as you dont trust yourself, youll work that much harder torationalize, minimize and denymy abuse.
Translation:I am a master of creating chaos to provoke you.
I love it when you react.
That way, I can point the finger and say youre the crazy one.
My exes are crazy.
Translation:I made my exes crazy.
It was so fun!
All I had to do was provoke, poke and prod until I got a reaction.
Finally when I did, I used those reactions against them to show everyonehow unhingedthey are.
Soon, youll be the crazy ex too.
She/he is just a friend.
Translation:I keep this person as a backup for whenever I get bored.
They may replace you if you leave.
In fact, they may already be acting as a valuable side piece.
Youre so jealous and insecure.
Translation:God, thislove triangleis fun.
I love the way you compete for my attention.
Makes me feel so desirable and powerful when I flirt with others in front of you.
Gets you riled up.
The more diminished you feel, the less likely youll venture to escape my grasp.
The truth is, everything you suspect about my flirtations and affairs is grounded in reality.
But let me remind you: I am entitled to everything.
That includes the attention of other romantic prospects.
You have trust issues.
Translation:I am an untrustworthy person, which Ive shown time and time again by betraying you.
Your gut is right, but itll be a cold day in hell if I ever admit it.
Its not all about you.
Why cant we remain friends?
Translation:I really dont like losing members of my personal harem.
Id prefer to keep you on the back burner in case I need to use you in the future.
Plus,collecting exesis a hobby of mine.
Its so convenient to be able to reach out to one whenever I am feeling especially bored.
Who knew being friends could be such a great way to prevent losing valuable sources of supply so easily?
No one would believe you.
Translation:Ive isolated you to the point where you feel you have no support.
Ivesmeared your nameto others ahead of time so people already suspect the lies Ive told about you.
Especially the people who continue to enable me.
There are still others who might believe you, though, and I cant risk being caught.
Making you feel alienated and alone is the best way for me to protect my image.
Youll never find someone else like me.
Translation:If you never find someone else like me, thats a good thing.
There are empathic people out there who willtreat you far betterthan I ever did.
But Id never want you to find them or discover your true worth.
Id prefer you to keep pining after me.
