OK, here we go…
1.
All men are jerks.
Yes, I know that maybe youve been hurt in the past, but this attitude is toxic.
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Lets just flip it for a second.
You would think he was a chauvinistic jerk.
She will be hyper-vigilant, expecting him to dump her or do something horrible at any moment.
You cant really form a connection or a relationship with someone like this.
Do I look fat?
Has any man in the history of mankind ever answered yes to this question?
What youre really asking is: do you still find me desirable?
Because I think I put on some weight and I want to verify youre still attracted to me.
But there is nothing desirable about being insecure.
My ex would never do that.
you might express your unmet needs to him in a way that doesnt make him feel resentful toward you.
What are you thinking about right now?
You dont want to hear that hes thinking about Fantasy Football or whatever nonsense is swirling around up there.
Focus on feeling secure in the relationship so you dont need so much assurance from him.
If you have a hard time feeling secure, ask yourself why.
Nope, nothing is wrong … when something is wrong.
Dont expect him to be a mind reader.
Its much better to let things unfold organically without force or pressure.
Guys always ghost or dump me.
Where have you been?
Guys dont want to feel like youre keeping tabs on them- especially not in the beginning!
I should also add when a guy really likes you, he wont usually leave you hanging.
If he takes an exceptionally long time to get back to you, hell usually tell you why.
If he disappears often and with no explanation, he probably likes you… but doesnt like you enough.
We need to talk.
Is there a more chilling combination of words than this?
Just stay away from this one!
So when am I going to hear from you again?
This just comes across as desperate and needy- almost like youre expecting not to hear from him again.
It is much better to just assume he likes you and assume youll hear from him.
Bringing up things he did in the past that youve already forgiven him for.
If you forgive him for something,forgive him for itand move past it.
That means you cant bring up that thing anymore.
