Dont give in to feeling guilty.
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Updated 5 years ago,January 30, 2020
Toxic people.We all know them.
you could identify a toxic person by how easily they accept fault for their actions that have hurt you.
Vlad Bagacian
Talking logically to a toxic person never works because they are incapable of seeing their actions from your viewpoint.
Unfortunately, toxic individuals are unable to put this concept into practice.
All they see is you and how infinitely flawed you are.
No matter what you do, you will never be successful in teaching them otherwise.
But there are some things it’s possible for you to do.
Block their number, delete them off social media and limit the ways in which they can contact you.
While this is drastic, sometimes, its the only option they left open to you.
The most effective way to negate this behavior is to keep your personal life at a distance from them.
Dont share your drama on social media or with them via text message.
If youre going through a hard time, pretend everything is fine when theyre around.
Politely decline invitations.If you dont feel comfortable attending their events, then dont go.
5.Create boundaries.This could be something the toxic person doesnt even know youre doing.
Lets say they get angry when you dont respond to their text message right away.
Make a decision to answer them when you want to, not when they are expecting it.
Learned behavior is changed behavior.
However, your guilt and vulnerability are what a toxic person is counting on.
When you rescue someone else (saying yes to their invite), you victimize yourself in the process.
Guilt is a sign of toxicity.
So, why not make the decisions that are best for your mental health?
Yes, you are given one BIRTH family, but family is not a singular term with one definition.
That is such a toxic concept and I hate it.
Their anger at you is really anger and resentment for their own situation.
You are a mirror and thats not your fault.
Dont let them make you believe otherwise.
Youre barking up the wrong tree.
Instead, channel your energy into the people and activities that bring you joy.
Slowly but surely, their opinion of you wont carry as much weight.
Love yourself enough to stand behind the boundaries you create.
When it comes to a toxic person, their actions are always going to catch you off guard.
Because at the end of the day, thats all they want.
