If you dont do what they want you to you, they threaten you.
They will take things away.
They will do anything to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do.
God & Man
and if you don’t play by there rules you’ll pay for it.
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Updated 7 years ago,November 1, 2017
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They make you think youre the crazy one.
God & Man
You play back something traumatic that happened.
They say you imagined that in your head.
You dont remember it properly.
The endless cycle that comes with a narcissist.
You get into a fight.
They turn into that version of themselves you hate.
They go after you, emotionally or physically and then after that they snap back into a normal person.
They feel guilty for taking it out on you.
They need time alone to reflect.
They come back around saying sorry maybe even giving you something.
Then they end with the cryptic line of I only want whats best for you.
I did it out of love.
You learn to associate love with pain and mistreatment with its okay as long as someone says sorry.
They swear they will change but they dont.
They change for a moment only to lose it on you the next chance they get.
They control with fear.
Narcissists gain control by making people fear them.
Its better just agree and let them control you then start another fight that isnt worth it.
Narcissists need the control of someone else because so many things in their own life are outside their control.
Their emotions and temper they cant control.
They look for people who appear weak so they can manipulate them.
They associate relationships with ownership.
If you dont do what they want you to you, they threaten you.
They will take things away.
They will do anything to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do.
and if you dont play by there rules youll pay for it.
They always blame you.
Had you not done XYZ they wouldnt have reacted that way.
If you only did this their way something wouldnt have happened.
Nothing is ever their fault.
But instead of actually doing it themselves theyd rather blame someone else then even lift a finger.
Narcissists are never at fault for anything.
They pull away making you think you need them.
They disappear for moments at a time.
They want you to know what life without them would be like.
They want you to think you need them.
They set you on fire but then put it out.
Saving you but also being the one who caused it in the first place.
They enter fights with ammo ready.
When you fight with a narcissist you are never going to win.
The fight will run in so many circles youll just eventually get tired of even trying.
It might even get to a point you dont even know what it is youre fighting about anymore.
Narcissists go off in conversation with a simple objective of completely shutting you down.
They thrive on winning even if its a stupid fight.
And they will pick any fight they can.
They talk to hear themselves talk.
A conversation with them isnt a two-way street.
Its just you listening to what they are saying.
Narcissists love people who listen because all they really want to talk about is themselves.
The conversation ends on their agenda and you realize you havent said much at all.
Your success is a reflection of them but it never feels good enough.
When you achieve anything, they are proud of you when it makes them look good.
Something they can take ownership of.
Acceptance comes through their validation but they make you feel like youre never good enough.
Your mistakes are also a reflection of them.
They dont see you as your own person but rather an extension of them.
So if you do something that makes them look bad they lose it on you.
They ruin happy moments making it about them.
They ruin every good day you might have, putting the spotlight on them.
They cause some fight.
They purposefully attempt to make people unhappy with their mood or attitude or losing it at the worst moment.
Then they blame it on you.
Well, if you didnt do this they wouldnt have reacted like that.
They dont take control of their own happiness.
They thrive on gossip and drama.
But only they tend to spin things.
They emotionally, verbally sometimes physically abuse you.
They push you to your breaking point just to see how far they can go until you fall apart.
We all know physical abuse is wrong.
There is concrete evidence and marks what someone did was wrong.
But emotional abuse isnt as easy to spot.
Emotional abuse is what the victim might not even realize it themselves.
Verbal abuse is something victims over time just get used to.
Its the little jokes that always mean something a little more.
Its constantly putting you down to a point where you stay there.
Narcissists thrive on the impact and control they have on someone else.
They make you feel like you need the relationship yourself because theyve manipulated you into thinking that.
But its really them who needs you.
They wont ever admit that but they thrive in controlling others.
And when they cant control you anymore they try and control the way people think about you.
