Its a sign of toxicity when your friend cant be happy with your happiness.
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Updated 6 years ago,April 22, 2019
Your friend did something that made you upset again.
Now you feel mad, sad, frustrated, humiliated, or irritated.
Eric Nopanen
Whats wrong with them?
Youre supposed to be friends!
Yes, but it may be a friendship full of toxicity.
They are overly critical
Dont expect your friend to always tell you what you want to hear.
Thats not authentic, and its not a sign of caring.
But when your friend harshly criticizes you all the time, thats not healthy, either.
They are jealous
Its a sign of toxicity when your friend cant be happy with your happiness.
They venture to keep your self-esteem low
They rarely compliment you or point out what you did right.
They tend to focus on your faults and weakness and never tire of telling you what you did wrong.
All this packaged in the disclaimer But Im your friend and I want to help you.
They play fortune teller
Only they have just bad things to predict for your future.
They dont offer encouragement, support, or any optimism when you have difficulties.
They doubt you
For whatever you say, they have a counterargument.
You liked this place?
Well, they know a better one.
You are thinking about wearing a certain outfit?
They will tell you it doesnt look as good on you.
You like another person?
They will tell you why you cant have them.
From the petty to the more serious, they doubt your value and discredit you.
They are gossips
They gossip about others and have bad things to say about anyone they know.
But thats the exception, not the rule.
They are entitled
They think that the world owes them.
They think that you owe them.
They believe they are so extraordinary that others need to treat them with special care
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They dont appreciate either small or big gestures, as they always think they deserve better or more.
They lack empathy
Living in their me, me, me world, they dont get you.
They dont understand your needs and they have no clue about how you feel.
Even worse, they dont care and they dont want to find out.
They always have a handy explanation why this is a misunderstanding and how they didnt mean it.
And of course they show up only when they want to, not when you need them to.
They are drama queens
Everything is about them and the drama in their lives.
They will call you in the middle of the night to unload their dramas onto you.
They are emotional bullies
They will use whatever you tell them, primarily your feelings, against you.
They are negative
They have more negative emotions that positive ones.
They thrive on negativity.
They may smile or present an upbeat front, but thats the tip of the iceberg.
Underneath, theres a dangerous mass of negativity affecting everyone around them.
