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Updated 3 years ago,February 24, 2022
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Seeing who will fight for you.
People who have been repeatedly bruised in relationships need to feel wanted, not just settled for.
2.Changing your hair or some other part of your physical appearance drastically or regularly.
It is a way of masking the parts of themselves that they feel have been rejected.
3.Sharing whats worst, first.
4.Bonding over pain rather than interests.
Most people forge friendships through similar experiences, interests or opinions.
People who have their defenses up forge relationships through mutually understood pain.
5.Displacing feelings and worrying about irrational things that you know arent actually the problem at hand.
One of the most misunderstood defense mechanisms is displaced feeling or more commonly, displaced fear.
Living through the aperture of how others perceive you…
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Which is a fancy way to say being obsessed with what other people think.
What we thinkothersthink of us is actually whatwethink of ourselves.
Other peoples opinions are mostly transient, and most of the time totally unknown to us.
Relying on divination or signs to tell you whats right for your life.
Unfortunately, it is a counterproductive approach, as they end up abusing themselves far worse in the long-term.
Disassociating from a certain time of life, group of people, or former identity.
Regressing to childlike anger.
Regressing to childlike desires.
Most people think that perfectionists are just throw in A control freaks who have unreasonable preferences.
Life doesnt happen from the head, it happens from the heart.
It is a way of stripping emotion from an experience that was otherwise uncomfortable.
Isolating, or avoiding deep connection.
Failure is what we ascribe to behaviors or actions that we think make us less lovable.
This can also manifest as intense indecisiveness, fence-sitting and low self-esteem.
