Human beings are not designed to suffer.
We are designed to feel pain.
Suffering is holding onto pain; pain is just a feeling that our bodies and minds self-heal.
God & Man
It is our attachment to what the pain does for us that keeps it sustained.
Here, 16 signs youre projecting and deflecting whats really wrong, and creating bigger problems in its place.
Whatever you feel jealous of in others is usually a direct reflection of something you subconsciously deny yourself.
What I find in myself is a tremendous well of longing for my own joy.
And that longing is not bad in any way; its something to be embraced.
And it sort of takes other people out of the equation.
Maintaining habits that you know are holding you back.
Habits become us, or rather, we become our habits.
Making problems into patterns.
or more commonly, why you think it keeps you safe.
Suppressing the feeling of happiness, not letting yourself feel good.
As Alan Watts says, it is impossible to numb just one half of our feeling capacities.
If we are avoiding our anxieties, we must do the same to our happiness.
When we open ourselves up to receptivity, we open up to everything.
Hating everyone, or finding problems with everyone you know.
This is about as standard an example of projection as it gets.
Intellectualizing life, having trouble empathizing.
Regressing to the coping mechanism you used when you were first traumatized.
Avoiding other people even though you desperately crave connection and love.
Attracting and getting attached to partners you know will hurt you.
Worrying about what other people think nonstop.
Everyone worries about other peoples opinions at some point or another.
You give a shot to create a life that looks perfect on the outside.
It is soothing to see something perfect when they dont feel that way on the inside.
You worry about freak circumstances and unlikely possibilities.
You are hyper self-conscious, struggling with body issues.
Some people just dislike how they look.
Others obsess over it because theres something deeper thats scarier to address.
You are easily set off; can easily become distraught over one offhand comment or two.
Do you ever look at a bad photo of yourself, and it ruins your entire night out?
Do you have one tense interaction with someone and find that it easily derails your entire afternoon?
You conflate and ascribe intent.
You conflate the present moment for being a statement about your entire existence as a whole.
On top of that, you also falsely ascribe intent.
The truth is that when youre super self-conscious and worried, youll find anything to worry about.
The problem is the way youre interpreting reality, not how it actually is.
