Try not to take rejection so personallynot everyone has to be in love with you.
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Updated 8 years ago,October 10, 2017
I pride myself on knowing my worth.
It has truly taken me my whole life to accept and appreciate myself.
I was raised to believe that I am smart, capable, worthy, and enough on my own.
I was so flawed that no one wanted to be my partner.
Without my consent, the insecure part of me started to believe this ridiculous narrative.
We cant help what we learn.
Its impossible to unlearn something, so what do we do when that information doesnt work for us anymore?
We accumulate new information to replace it.
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Today Im challenging the notion that Im not good enough on my ownthat we are not good enough.
- give a shot to love yourself entirely:inside and out, the good and the bad.
No one on their death-bed says, I wish I had been thinner.
Do the things that fill your soul and loving yourself will come naturally.
Do not compare yourself to anyone besides your constantly growing self.People in relationships are not always happy.
People who have a family or a great job are not always fulfilled.
People who are rich in possessions are not always at peace.
What you see is rarely what you get.
Try not to take rejection so personallynot everyone has to be in love with you.
Keep in mind youre interviewing these people too, and you have a lot of requirements.
You know what you want out of a partner and you wont settle for much less.
Look at your past relationshipswhy did they fail?
What did you learn?
Hold yourself to it.
Dont expect someone to do or be something if you cant.
Just because someone is hot does not mean you should sleep with them.
You take it personally and file it under reasons why Im not good enough.
Sex is so much more fun, passionate, and enjoyable when its meaningful.
Do go slowly.Passion is rarely the way its portrayed in movies.
You hold hands, you kiss, you rest your head on their shoulder.
You get to know each otherfigure out what they like, and more importantly, what you like.
Its fun, its exciting, its romantic.
Dont skip that part.
Romantic relationships have value too, but they do not make you a more worthy human being.
Treating others like a piece of ass makes you feel like youre only good for sex.
Judging others makes you feel judged.
Treating people with kindness, tolerance, and love makes you feel like you also deserve those things.
It reinforces the notion that you, on your own, are not enough.
Loneliness will come and go.
Uncomfortable emotions exist and they happen.
It is okay to have them and feel them.
When you have the desire to get on Tinder to take those negative emotions away, employ self-care instead.
Rather than strengthening those negative ideas about yourself, strengthen positive ones.
Do esteemable acts to increase self-esteem.
Take actions that make you feel youre enough.
Stop keeping tabs on your exes.Its over for a reason.
Be grateful to them for the experiences they provided and the things youve learned as a result.
Just because it didnt work out with your ex doesnt mean it wont with the right person.
Practice radical acceptance.Radical, fucking, acceptance.
Its not easy to let go of control but its necessary to happiness.
The things you so desperately desire…you may never have them.
Thats a tough pill to swallow.
But theres only so much over which you have power.
If they never happen, it wont be so important.
If they do come, youll be ready for them.
