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Updated 7 years ago,October 8, 2018
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Theres someone better for you.
I know you dont want to hear it or believe it.
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It probably ended before, its over.
Sometimes breakups blind you.
But in my experience most the time we see it coming we just choose to believe something different.
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But in reality, they broke the heart of someone who would never do the same.
Pain means you at least tried something.
I know you hate how much it hurts right now but the risk is always worth it.
To say you truly loved someone, a lot of people settle and dont find that.
Value what you did have even if you dont have it anymore.
Dont let this pain dictate your future relationships.
I know how hard it is to even consider trusting and opening up to someone.
But know not everyone is going to hurt you.
If you go into relationships expecting the worst thats when it plays out.
After a breakup, we always want to change.
We always want to improve.
We always want to make that person regret what theyve done.
Delete them on social media.
Rock bottom is an awesome place to build from.
When youve fallen to your knees crying and you cant sleep.
When everything seems to be going wrong in your life.
You will love again.
You dont think you will ever love someone again the way you did them.
And the truth is you wont.
Every person and every relationship is different.
If you love someone the same way then you havent learned.
But the next person you love, youll learn to love even better.
Even if you were dumped theres something it’s possible for you to learn.
Dont just look at it like that person is the most awful human you know.
Understand the pain is love.
Heartbreak teaches you who you dont want to be.
Everyone has been there.
Theyve turned into versions of themselves they are embarrassed of.
It teaches you who your friends are.
And they see you at your worst.
The saddest and worst shape youve ever been and they stay.
At least you have someone who does.
It teaches you what you need and want in your next partner.
You might have loved them through every flaw they had.
I need a partner more like this.
Every relationship is a learning experience for something better.
Dont look at it like you did something wrong.
Its never just one persons fault but rather both people.
It takes two people to have a successful relationship.
So regardless of who ended it, its their fault too.
Take the time to learn to fall back in love with yourself.
Sometimes when you are in a relationship you lose yourself to it.
Especially when youre with someone you value a little more than yourself.
Someone you love more than yourself.
Remember what its like to love yourself.
Take the time to rebuild that relationship.
This is the time to do the opposite.
Become their biggest regret.
People come back around when they realize how much happier you are without them.
And Im not saying try and make them jealous by dating someone so fast.
Im saying become a version of yourself they cant even touch.
Thats when you heal.
Date again when youre ready, not lonely.
It is no one job to fill the void someone left you with or heal you.
It is their job to love you and treat you well.
Regardless of how great the next person might be that first, one is always the rebound.
Give yourself time to heal.
You dont need a relationship what it’s crucial that you do is establish one with yourself first.
