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Updated 8 years ago,June 12, 2017
1.
Marry a woman because you think you cant spend the rest of your life without her.
shortadamlewis
2. legomonkeyspaceship
3.
Nathan Walker
Find someone who loves you even after seeing you at your worst.
Youre going to see the worst in your partner.
Theyre going to see your worst.
Nathan Walker
Find someone who deserves and will return your patience.
The most attractive thing about my wife is her 10+ years of empathy that shes had for me.
you gotta marry the girl who sticks with you through your darkest times.
neonwaterfall
5.
Support your SO, but confirm you are getting support in return.
Support your SO, but confirm you are getting support in return.
Dont sacrifice your goals for any woman.
Dont buy into the woman/wife is always right or gets what she wants.
If you have a woman like this, she isnt worth having.
Your goals, dreams and hobbies will become secondary and you will resent them.
Support is a two way street and demonstrated by mutual respect for each others goals.
MrCellofane
6.
Realize that your S.O.
communicates differently than you.
Realize that your S.O.
communicates differently than you.
ussrael
7.
Listen to understand rather than listen to respond.
Listen to understand rather than listen to respond.
Sewtwo2
8.
Never get comfortable and lazy.
Never stop dating our spouse.
Getting married isnt a finish line.
Take the time to woo them on a regular basis.
Small gifts, thoughtful tasks, and date night.
Its easy to fall into a comfortable rut, but it doesnt help anyone.
Sully1102
9.
If you cant be yourself around someone, they arent right for you.
If you cant be yourself around someone, they arent right for you.
That doesnt mean beat whoever your dating over the head with it, but talk about it.
Some shared interests are important in a relationship imho.
obviously not ALL interests should be shared, my wife likes reality tv, I like zombies.
those dont mesh for each other.
but we share enough common interests that we can watch anime together and play D&D every weekend.
Effendoor
10.
Establish boundaries very early on and stick to them.
Establish boundaries very early on and stick to them.
Every single cliche you see in goofy romantic movies.
Now its getting hard to break up that dynamic without looking like the bad guy.
slapuwithafish
11.
Be completely honest from the beginning.
If you want to be truly happy in a relationship be completely honest from the beginning.
sclerf
12.
Nice guys dont finish last;boringguys do.
Nice guys dont finish last;boringguys do.
WoollyMuffler
13.
Take time for yourself.
A marriage is between two individuals in union.
You dont have to woo her every day but pick up some flowers every once in a while.
Remember that one little thing she liked or mentioned once and get it for her.
Keep some of your hobbies, even if you might need to scale back some.
Take time for yourself.
A marriage is between twoindividualsin union.
Have shared goals while being your own person.
bythog
14.
Figure out if you might handle pressure together.
You remember that trip you went on as a couple where nothing went right?
Thats your life when you have two kids and two jobs.
Can you be happy with that version of her?
wrong_hole_lol
15.
Always work at it, tweak it, maintain it.
My wife and I had a conversation recently about what it means to love somebody.
She, like most people, doesnt really have a clear definition of love.
I told her I view love as being about making a decision to be committed to a person.
My advice is, take some time and truly think about your partner/love interest.
Imagine your future together.
Never treat your relationship as a goal that youve accomplished.
Always work at it, tweak it, maintain it.
romafa
16.
Be super clear about who you are and what you want.
Be super clear about who you are and what you want.
In fairness theyre not wrong at all for expecting that if you havent communicated clearly and effectively.
Find out how she speaks, listens and tunes out.
Not just a physical language, the mental and emotional one too.Everyone hears things differently.
E.g., My wife and Is definition of pretty and attractive are entirely different.
She asked me if I thought her sister was attractive.
I said no but I think shes pretty.
Attractive to me = youre attracted to that person, to her = that person is good looking.
After a while of talking we figured out we meant different things.
Dont sweat the single life or throw it away because youre lonely.
Late night gaming with the boys or going out without having to double check plans was amazing.
Not saying I dont love marriage but boy there are some luxuries as a married man you cant have.
Im not encouraging or condoning sleeping around.
Enjoy the single life.
Enjoy this season of life.
Once youre married though youre never the same.
That single man dies when she walks down.
A lot of people have a bad time and form advice from a bad marriage.
That sort of advice will never work to establish a good marriage or relationship.
It may help to know what not to do but it wont help you know what to do.
What have you got to offer her?
peacetyrant
17.
Never take your partner for granted.
I was actively trying to impress her during that time and be a nice, caring person.
So now, every day, I venture to be that guy again.
Shell_Execute
18.
Treat her the way you would want someone to treat your mom/grandmother/sister.
If you want to fuck someone else, then man up and bow out of the relationship.
Dont be a cheater.
Treat her the way you would want someone to treat your mom/grandmother/sister.
And I dont mean break your arms for a hand job.
I mean be respectful, tell her she is beautiful every day.
I tell my wife she is beautiful every morning.
Sometimes it just says I love you.
It is a really simple thing to do that brightens her day.
None of us are perfect.
I am sure that I have qualities or habits that my wife finds annoying.
Make the effort to look past those little things.
She is looking past your stupid little habits, so dont nitpick that shit.
Communicate, dont fight.
My wife doesnt pull a lot of psychological Cosmo magazine crap.
If she has an issue, she tells me.
Sometimes it isnt easy to hear something like that and sometimes it is hard for her to share something.
If she will put herself out there, you have to be receptive and honest with yourself.
Sometimes youre gonna watchProject Runwayor the Kardashians or that romantic comedy.
She sat through the 130th time you watched Predator last week.
Split up the chores.
My wife and I split everything up.
I do the yard stuff, she does the laundry.
We share the cooking, share the dishes.
Dont ever fight about money.
My wife and I actually keep our money separate.
We never fight about money.
That being said, establish who pays for what, what contributions are being made and so on.
Give her space to be herself.
I actively encourage my wife to go out with her friends from time to time.
A buddy of mine hates it when his wife goes out because guys may hit on her.
My wife is attractive.
Maybe a guy does hit on her.
I trust her to do the right thing.
And I want her to have time with her friends to talk and laugh and catch up.
Ill even pick them up at the bar and give them rides home.
Above all, treat her the way she deserves to be treated.
You dont have to put her on a pedestal and worship her, but treat her right.
launch the doors, pull out chairs, be polite, be nice to her friends.
