you oughta stop insisting that things are “out of your control.”
Face it: you better drink water.
Respect that not everyone has to like what you like.
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In fact not only respect it, dont even give it a second thought.
You cant always trust your heart because your heart is stupid and weak.
That part of you that always leans one way or the other when youre faced with a decision?
That part of you almostalwaysknows.
And ignoring it is doing yourself and your wellbeing a disservice.
One of my best friends once said, People are made up of actions.
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And that applies not only to others, but to you as well.
Your actions, your choices, are ultimately only determined by you.
Yesits normal to feel impacted or swayed by the things that happen around you.
But whatever you choose to do isyourchoice.
And your unhappiness is (usually) a direct result of your choicesnot anyone elses.
So stopping putting your emotions onto other peoples shoulders.
Your own happiness is no ones responsibility other than your own.
If you want to make a change, make one.
If you want to move, move.
If you want to say something, speak up.
If you want to do something, just do it.
No one ever got anywhere by just thinking about it and not actually putting anything into practice.
You have to actually do something to make it see results, in any aspect in life.
Throwing your hands up dramatically and saying, Welp, nothing I can do!
is for soap opera characters and confused children.
You are not a tree.
you could move, you could do things.
For the most part, you have a say with what happens around you.
Saying that something is beyond your capability of controlling is essentially giving up.
Be better than giving up.
Who are you trying to convince by saying, Im moving on!!!1!
for the 15th time?
If youve actually moved on, you probably wont have to talk about it so excessively.
If you actually want to move, you really shouldnt need to announce it from a metaphorical mountain top.
You should just do it.
If someone doesnt get you off you dont need to keep sleeping with them.
Telling your partner or whoever youre in bed with what you want isnt an overstep.
Its a necessity for everyone involved to have a good time.
There is no shame in having a quiet night at home.
There is no shame in not going to a bar when you dont want to.
There is no shame in literally not doing something simply because you dont want to.
No excuses needed, just dont do it.
Everyone needs time to take a minute and just do nothing.
To turn their brains off.
To hit the pause button.
To take some time off.
You cant be go go go all the time.
you oughta stop sometimes too.
Because what is fine anyway?
Fine is a placeholder we use instead of actually saying how we are.
Stop saying fine and instead make a run at be honest.
If youre struggling, speak up.
If youre ecstatic, celebrate it.
Remove fine from your vernacular unless youre talking about your hair jot down.
The little voices in your head are the ones coming from your own worst critic: yourself.
Nobody else hears them.
Or you should probably stop complaining about them.
Those are your two options as far as Im concerned.
Routine can be incredibly healthy.
But you should give yourself permission to shake things up.
To take some risks.
The beautiful thing about routine is it’s possible for you to always come back to it.
So do something crazy, and then remember that you still get to come home.
Be honest with yourself.
Have your own back.
Stand up for yourself.
Treat yourself and your self-worth like your most precious, lucrative investment and verify that youre getting whats yours.
Make shit work out for yourself.
Youre allowed to start over.
Youre allowed to loop back and try.
No one else is going to do it.
Changing your own life will always start with you.
