You won’t always be the hero of the story.
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Updated 7 years ago,December 17, 2017
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This one was especially hard for me, a true people-pleaser, to come to terms with.
God & Man
Its not my job, and its not yours.
You cant fix people
This is honestly one of the hardest lessons Ive had to learn.
They can only fix themselves.
God & Man
Because of that, Ive always had a way of putting everyone elses needs before my own.
But selflessness isnt about running yourself into the ground to see to it everyone around you is okay.
Nobody is obligated to love you
This isnt a pill thats easy to swallow.
I dont like to admit this, but its true: no onehasto stay in your life.
No onehasto love you.
Were told that we have to love our family, even if theyre abusive and hurtful.
Were given guidelines for who deserves our time and who doesnt.
Let me tell you, its all bullshit.
You dont have to love a girl or a guy just because theyre nice to you.
Sometimes your truth is going to hurt others, and you have to be aware of that.
Other people cant make you happy
Ive always been a very extroverted, sociable person.
Should being around your friends make you happy?
Should they be your only source of happiness?
Good relationships are work
This goes for any kind of relationship, romantic or otherwise.
You cant just expect meaningful partnerships to maintain themselves.
Its frustrating when you quite literally cant do anything about the things that are making you miserable.
Of course, I wasnt always like that.
At the very least, say maybe explore the idea of something new before turning it down.
Unfortunately, youre not going to be the good guy in every narrative.
Youre the bad guy.
Sometimes, youre the greatest antagonist of all.
The best thing you might do is accept your shortcomings
Thats right, youre flawed.
Dont beat yourself up mercilessly because you arent some kind of perfectionist robot that does no wrong.
Were all just people trying to figure out how to live life the best way we can.
Trauma will change you, but it wont define you
You are not your trauma.
I repeat: you are not your trauma.
It does not define who you are or what youre going to become.
However, it will change you, and thats okay.
You cant expect to come out of a struggle completely untouched.
Dont hate yourself for your battle scars you are no less beautiful.
Time is the most valuable thing youll ever have, she told me.
Dont waste it on things that arent worth it.
Time isnt an unlimited resource, but we often take it for granted anyway.
Dont waste it on people or situations that dont make you feel happy, excited, or productive.
Youd be amazed what you could do with your time if you conserve it.
Its as if we believe that giving up once means that we should never try doing it again.
Theres no shame in asking for help
Ive always had a very hard time asking for help.
Maybe its because I dont like feeling vulnerable, or maybe its because I just never learned how to.
No one expects you to shoulder all of your burdens alone.
Be grateful for the lessons life handed you through hardships after all, theyre the ones well earned.
