“Had one to get married at 30.
I got married before that and I don’t think my friend took it well.”
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Updated 6 years ago,April 2, 2019
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1.I did.
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I dated my first girlfriend when we were about 17-19.
Then she broke up with me but we had said such a thing before while we were still dating.
But it wasnt with resignation, more of an epiphany.
So we started dating again, and married soon after.
And couldnt be happier.
2.Had one for 30 and moving in together.
She said no and moved across the country.
Not a result of the pact obviously, but funny that we ended up married anyways.
5.I think, if memory serves, my wife and I had one of those.
But, we ended up together and married in our early 20s.
6.Had one to get married at 30.
I got married before that and I dont think my friend took it well.
We had sort of a strained relationship after and now we dont really talk much.
(Used to be best friends)
7.We ended up getting married at 30 instead.
As it turns out we loved each other and made every excuse to ignore it.
8.Weird couple my wife knew had such a pact and followed through.
Girl was a really introverted, quiet, homely key in.
But she never had a boyfriend as far as I knew.
And we saw her off and on for six or seven years.
Then suddenly out of nowhere she invited us to her wedding.
My wife teased her that more must have been going on all that time.
but she was straight up about it, and said no, they just decided it was time.
Basically we were just like, cool?
and then left it at that.
Anyways, she married him, they looked happy.
Last we saw them they looked happy and thats all that matters really.
9.I have/had one of those with my bff.
She turns 40 in a couple months and she is definitely single.
We havent spoken about it in over a decade.
I love her, and I know she loves me too.
I guess well see if she remembers and wants to follow through, but Im not holding my breath.
Theyre still together and very much in love.
We ended up dating a few months after that, and have been together for twelve years now.
12.Friends since we were 14 in high school.
Made a pact in our early 20s about if we were 30, childless, unhappy, etc.
Got married at 30.
7 years later its still the best relationship weve ever had and going strong.
13.I had several pacts like this over the years.
Within a year, they were all in serious relationships.
I was like the Wedding Bargain Matchmaker.
Our first kiss was Thanksgiving Day and we were married on Dec 17th.
Were still going strong after seven years!
Longest relationship Ive been been in, best decision of my life!
I told her I didnt want to ruin the friendship.
When I got engaged to my wife my FWB was livid.
She figured she can have all the fun and wed get married at some point.
I never spoke to her again after my engagement.
She got married last year.
I congratulated her but got no response.
Other families did the same so, I grew up with these other familys kids.
There was like 10 kids in our group and we spent almost every waking hour hanging out together.
One of the girls in the group was about a year older and kinda shy and chubby.
Not that it mattered though we were just really good friends.
Fast forward to our early 30s years.
She had moved away from her small town much to the amazement of her family.
It was the kind of small town that you were born in and would probably die in.
Nobody ever left but, she did.
She had a great job where she was able to make and save a TON of money.
She had also lost weight and had become crazy beautiful.
At the same time, most of our group of friends were getting married and working on having families.
We had been drinking so it was easy to get us to agree.
Before I hit 40, I met the love of my life and have 2 bad-ass little ones.
The girl from the lake had moved back to her little town and fell into the trap.
We still see each other every summer, and my wife hates it.
She says its so obvious that she still has a crush on you.
I could have married her and she would probably would have been in a better place now.
But, I would not be where I am now if I went down that road.
Life is weird man.
17.My friend and I had something like that in high school.
But it was 30 and we ended up dating until we turned 30 and got married.
Im turning 30 in a few years.
We barely spoke for the last 7 years.
He now has a girlfriend and lives in another country.
I dont think its going to happen.
Were 29 and still talk to each other daily.
Were also both single.
She also remembers the pact.
/sweats
20.Oh god no!
Mine was with my best friends mother!
She actually made a point of reminding me a few years ago.
