Sometimes, you have to choose happiness over being right.
Not only that, but they learned when it was a little too late.
But thats the great thing about wisdom: it can be shared.
Nina Hill
You have the opportunity to learn now rather than later.
You cant assume someone knows you appreciate them.
Dont take your partner for granted.
Even if youve been together for twenty years, tell your partner you appreciate them, preferably every day.
Sometimes, you have to choose happiness over being right.
My dad once told me that he picks and chooses his battles.
Trying to be right at the expense of your partners happiness will make you unhappy as well.
Youre both a team, and when one of you loses, you both lose.
Youre better off alone than settling for someone who keeps your bed warm.
Its not fair to either person if you settle on a relationship for the sake of being in one.
Youre telling yourself you dont deserve more.
Youre closing off the path for either to meet someone else.
And just because youre in a relationship doesnt mean your loneliness will disappear.
Date what someone presents to you, not their potential.
Ive talked with countless people who thought they could change the person theyre dating.
If they only had more ambition, theyd be so successful, theyd state.
Thinking this way is building a relationship with something that doesnt exist.
Youll have high expectations that the other person never agreed to.
Youll end up resenting them, even though you created this resentment yourself.
Another person cant make you happy.
If you arent happy with your life when youre single, a relationship wont fix that.
Happiness is an inside job only you’re able to take on.
You cant make someone love you.
People cant control who they love.
No matter how hard you venture to make someone love you, forcing things wont change their mind.
Yes, itll hurt.
But its better than being in a relationship with someone you have to convince to love you.
Surface-level qualities wont make for a lasting relationship.
You either grow together, or you grow apart.
Instead, find someone whos open-minded and isnt interested in staying stagnant in life.
Love is a choice, not a feeling.
Feelings come and go, yet people are in relationships for decades.
Thats because love isnt a feeling; its a choice.
You choose to keep loving, even when all of the pretty bits of a relationship fall away.
When you stop making that choice is when love falls apart.
Love isnt enough to make a relationship work.
Sometimes, two people can be in love and be wrong for each other.
Continue dating yourself in the relationship.
To this day, I schedule lots of alone time for myself.
I dont feel like me if I dont do the things that bring me joy.
Its up to you to ask for what you want in the relationship.
Your needs are your responsibility.
You have to speak when something is on your mind.
Your partner should respect what you ask for, but you cant expect them to be a mind-reader.
Staying quiet will only cause you more pain.
You dont need to agree about everything; you gotta respect each other.
But being disrespectful just because your partner disagrees with you will chip away at your relationship.
A relationship is something you contribute to every day.
A relationship isnt one thing; its a million little things.
It doesnt stop the moment you decide to be exclusive or when you say the words I do.
Its like a small child; you have to care for them every day.
Pointing out problems wont make anything better.
Coming to your relationship with only problems will create more problems.
No one wants to hear about what theyre doing wrong with no assistance on how to fix things.
If youre going to bring up an issue, ensure to have a solution.
When you love someone, you dont have a go at change them.
Rather, you aim to understand them.
You both should feel comfortable in the relationship, not that youre not good enough.
you’ve got the option to only change yourself, not someone else.
Every relationship has value, no matter the length.
Im sure there were happy memories and, at the very least, lessons you learned.
On the same note, dont let the idea of failure keep you in a relationship thats not working.
Some people are only meant to be in your life for now, not forever.
You cant expect your partner to meet all your needs.
Instead, have people in your life that meet your particular needs.
Love wont look like it does in the movies.
Dont get caught up in perfectly scripted plots.
Dont compare your relationship to other peoples.
Put down your phone.
Get off social media.
Stop thinking that if you had your sisters relationship, youd be happier.
Focus on your own relationship rather than comparing what you dont have to other people around you.
