You get to embark on the journey of finding, or re-finding, hobbies that you love.
And I would know this was my life since I was sixteen.
My relationships were back to back and often ending in the same exact ways.
Marlene Leppänen
About a year ago, I found myself single once more.
But instead of desperately finding another boyfriend, I intentionally stayed single.
I promised myself I would stick to this for at least six months.
Its been one year now.
And let me tell you, single life has surprised me.
Theres been a lot of outcomes that I was surprised and, to be frank, shocked by.
So if youre considering the single life, take these side effects into consideration:
1.
Your weekends are spent doing whatever the hell you want.
And you’re able to use that time to chase your dreams.
Or re-watch every episode of The Office again.
Those burger and fries are all yours enjoy.
The bed becomes yours; all yours.Theres no questioning, Which side do you want?
because every side is now your side.
Spread out like a goddamn starfish and enjoy your slumber.
You no longer have to hang out with his obnoxious friends.
Your nights are yours.
Figuring out whatyourinterests are.You no longer have to pretend to be into competitive cycling.
Gone are the days of watching indie films that drag on.
You get to embark on the journey of finding, or re-finding, hobbies that you love.
Being able to watch whatever you want on Netflix.All those cheesy romcoms that Netflix is coming out with?
There is no one to judge you.
Want to watch Friends for the 60th time?
You do you, baby.
Being able to watch The Holiday several nights in a row.And this doesnt just apply to Netflix.
you could watch that cheesy movie that you love, as many times as you want.
- you might dye your hair pink.This is more of a metaphor.
Raising your standards.You no longer have to set your standards to any significant other.
You decide for yourself what you want in a relationship because theres no pressure to get into one.
Instead, your mental energy can be spent on yourself.
Learning the difference between being alone and loneliness.Being content with solitude comes from enjoying time by yourself.
You dont have to feel empty or like a part of you is missing.
Being able to flirt with whoever you want, whenever you want.Cute guy at the bar?
Make eyes with him.
Charming Uber driver that seems into you?
Pretend you lost something after the ride and get his number.
And I know this works because a driver did this to me once.
I love my sleep.
Not living up to anyones expectations but your own.You decide what you get up and do for the day.
You set the bar as high or low as you want.
No longer do you have someone elses preconceived notions of what success looks like being hovered over you.
Youre chasing your dreams on your own terms.
You get to save that money or, better yet, spend it on yourself.
Redefine what love looks like for you.When youre single, youll have a lot of time to reflect.
Youll consider what you liked about your relationships and what you refuse to put up with again.
Youll start to create boundaries and consider dating men that arent like the ones you chose in the past.
Hanging out with all your guy friends.Theres no longer someone there to get jealous.
you’ve got the option to hang out with your co-workers of the opposite sex.
you’ve got the option to call up all your old guy friends.
you’ve got the option to literally hang out with whoever.
Friendships become stronger.For whatever reason, people tend to disappear when they get into a relationship.
But thats no longer you!
The last slice of pizza will always be yours.No question about this.
You are the master of your own pizza.
Buy the ticket and go.
Theres no one nagging to come along.
Knowing who you are outside of a relationship is the best gift you’re able to give yourself.
Being happy being alone will be the key to always enjoying life.
