Not as an insult, not to be hateful.
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
Youre not the only person going through heartache.
These people fromAsk Reddithave experienced the same exact thing and they have some advice to help you move on.
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Unfollow them on social media
Unfollow or block on all social media.
If you have mutual friends and those friends are posting things related to your SO (e.g.
theyre out every night at the club with them or whatever), unfollow them as well.
Its out of sight out of mind sort of deal.
Its much easier to get over if you dont have reminders around.
DrunkenOni
2.
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Keep yourself occupied
Think of all the things that were bad in the relationship.
Things that you would have liked to be different.
you’re able to now find those things in your next partner!
When you start to long for them, go over that list in your head.
Put everything that reminds you of the relationship into a box and put it away.
Ask yourself how you’re able to improve yourself for your next relationship.
To be a better person and a more desirable partner.
Work on those things, and realize you are a desirable partner.
A boost to your self confidence helps the bad feelings go away.
Know that this wasnt your last chance at love, no matter how much it felt like destiny.
You will not be alone forever, you will find someone new, someone better.
Time will pass and you will be comfortable dating again.
Dont force yourself into dating.
Take time to just be yourself.
Take care of your own needs.
Its ok to be a little selfish.
When times are tough, keep yourself occupied.
Talk to friends, watch Netflix, play a game, etc.
Keep your mind off your ex during a loneliness flare up.
Do not stew in the loneliness.
Know that it will pass.
Possibly the hardest part; know when to walk away completely.
Blu3Army73
3.
Dont make a run at remain friends
Dont try and stay friends straight away.
It hurts too much.
And you will need to take that power, or youll feel utterly worthless.
One day in the future, maybe youll get back in touch and rekindle a friendship.
DukeInterior
4.
Give yourself time to hurt
Hard times come, and hard times pass.
Like all your strife before, this too shall pass.
Give yourself time to hurt it will hurt less and less until youre back to being you.
ALLSTARTRIPOD
5.
The less youre reminded of your old SO, the faster youll move on.
Vangelicon
6.
If youre the breaker: remind yourself why you did it.
thejcm
7.
Treat your partners grievances as legitimatebeforeit gets to crisis level, dont brush them off until theres an ultimatum.
freudian_nipslip
8.
RevengeVagina
9.
Spend more time with your friends
Keep occupied.
Just keep occupied and someone will come along.
But first and foremost is accept theyre gone, thats absolutely the hardest thing but the biggest.
At least in my experience.
sozimdrunk
10.
WoollyMuffler
11.
Hook up with someone else
Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
nocontroll
12.
Have a movie night
Watch 500 Days of Summer.
Wavesignal
13.
Donotdrink
Stay away from the booze.
Sarabus
14.
Date someone different in the future
ensure the next person doesnt have the same qualities.
Moving on is hard, its not impossible.
Every day it gets easier.
Be as amicable as possible for your own peace of mind.
kitedog
15.
Let yourself feel sad
Let yourself feel sad.
And let yourself mourn what is over.
But move on too.
Find new things to do that are not associated with your ex.
Break social media ties if possible.
Seeing what your ex is up to will do you no favors.
Dont let it linger.
Adrenalchrome
16.
Dont pop in or talk to them much, but be polite when you do so.
Dont forget that you will feel better with time.
Dotte7
17.
Get revenge by bettering yourself
The best revenge is living well.
Move on and better yourself.
ParaLegalese
18.
Block their number
Block their number.
Not as an insult, not to be hateful.
So much peace of mind.
di456
19.
Stay off social media
Move on.
Stay off social media.
Learn from it.joshuanotjosh
20.
The experiences learned will shape a better you.
Its trial and error.
sallycreamcheese
21.
Give yourself uplifting reminders
Remember why youre breaking up, remember why you broke up.
UnsetTheMindset
22.
Youre not friends, youre exes.
If thats not the case, jealousy will ensue.
