Excuses aren’t worth anything to anyone other than the person making an excuse.
No one ever really feels like they have it totally together.
There is no age when youll suddenly wake up on your birthday and be all, Aha!
The things youre insecure about arent even on anyone elses radar.
Nothing you fixate on is that noticeable to anyone else.
You cant control things like dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin.
Youre just going to have to figure out how to deal with that.
Things dont always get better.
Truthfully, sometimes theyll get worse.
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But what does change is your ability to deal.
It doesnt always get better, but youdo.
Theres no glory in being a mess for the sake of being a mess.
Youre responsible for yourself, so make yourself and your wellbeing a priority.
Youre not weak, youre not pathetic.
Youre not some stereotype and its not embarrassing.
It just makes you a human being with, you know, a heart.
You have to learn to make decisions.
You have to learn how to make the tough calls.
Youre going to have to figure out how to make a choice and deal with itno matter the outcome.
You cant hit pause until someone tells you what to do.
You just have to make a decision.
You cannot make anyone do anything.
You cant make them feel anything.
You cant make them love you.
You cant make them respect you.
You cant make anyone do or be or feelanything.The only person who you might control, is yourself.
Youre not stupid, youre not weak, youre not nothing.
Yes, youre messy and flawed and have regrets and things you want a do-over about.
But youre smart and youre capable.
And youre going to be okay.
Its great to be there for other people, but not at the expense of yourself.
You cant allow people to demand more than you’ve got the option to give.
You cant be everything for other people, you cannot do everything.
Youre not responsible for anyone other than yourself.
They need to learn to be accountable for themselves.
You cant take care of everything and everyone.
Its logistically not possible.
Again: its great to be there for other people, but not at the expense of yourself.
For some reason those two little letters are some of the hardest to say.
But you have to learn to say them.
You cant do everything.
You cant be everywhere.
There is a lot of strength in knowing your limits.
Theres a lot power in having the ability to confidently say no.
It will take time.
And theres no guarantee how much or how little.
But eventually, that tangible, horrible ache that feels way too palpable will start to fade.
But eventually, it wont.
Eventually, itll just seem like something youve forgotten to do.
And eventually, it will just be like a memory.
And then eventually, just like everything else, it wont matter anymore.Theywont matter anymore.
Theres something to be said for telling people you appreciate them, for making them realize youre grateful.
And its something we could all stand to show a little more.
When in doubt, go to gratitude.
Its a pretty good place to be.
But excuses lead to nowhere.
They dont actually offer any sort of resolution to the problem.
And the reality is, excuses arent for anyone other than the person making the excuse.
So instead of offering up excuses, you better just ask how to make it better.
But is it also way better?
It wont make it not hurt when you accept that, but it is something you better remember.
People are allowed to leave, and you are allowed to let them go without a fight.
Even the people you lose can be a lesson.
Its really jarring and unnerving when things dont go according to plan.
You owe it to yourself to learn to not be completely thrown by the unexpected.
Maybe by doing that youll figure out that youre actually where you always shouldve been.
Being self-aware is the best thing you could possibly be.
Be able to recognize behaviors and your reactions and understandwhyyoure acting the way youre acting.
When youre able to put everything out onto the table, no one can take anything away from you.
Its completely impossible for you to avoid every single mistake and never make one.
Youre going to fuck upa lot probably.
And youll get back up, and youll figure out how to do better.
You dont have to be on a metaphorical island.
You dont have to hold everything up by yourself.
Its okay to ask for help.
Its okay to lean on others.
Its okay to need people.
And if that pisses them off thats fine.
They have some learning to do if thats the case.
You dont owe anyone anything, and vice versa.
Life gets way less frustrating when you realize that its not realistic to expect anything from anyone.
And you should always venture to do just that.
