“Love isn’t supposed to be painful.
Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel and get through it - there is joy to be had.
Loneliness is not a good reason to invite toxic people back into your life.”
Antonio Castillo
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.
You must first take care of yourself; you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Love yourself; treat yourself with kindness and compassion.
Indulge in something you like and dont for one second feel guilty about it!
Remember that all the ugly things they said to you were just projections of themselves.
Take some time to do something just for you whatever brings you joy.
Sarah
2.Celebrate your freedom.
The air in your lungs.
The lack of eggshells between your feet and the earth.
Celebrate peace by candlelight.
Remind your spirit she is more than enough and deserves to smile.
She deserves these reminders, in whatever form they come, and the detachment from the everyday.
Bernice
3.I transformed Valentines Day into a celebration.
I am part of and follow a great uprising that is One Billion Rising.
A movement against violence against women.
It is empowering to flip the script to change the messages you tell yourself.
To examine, heal and progress towards a better life.
With this great knowledge, you then can support and help others to rise.
Sonja
4.Celebrate the beautiful perfect whole you.
Order in your favorite meal.
Pick up your favorite sweet treat.
If you know a fellow single, regardless of age, meet up for a drink or coffee.
If you are young, you might make someone older and single feel loved.
If you are older, you’re able to make someone younger feel loved.
If all else fails, help someone else.
Volunteer at an animal shelter or a soup kitchen, wherever help is needed.
Jill
5.Buy yourself flowers!
You dont need anyone to buy you flowers buy them for yourself!
It makes me so happy so I do it all the time now.
I am 2 years divorced from a 15 year horribly toxic relationship!
Rachelle
6.Make V-day Victory Day and take time to acknowledge any personal victories, whether large or small.
Let yourself be proud of your accomplishments whatever they may be.
Validate them to yourself.
Instead, call a friend or even a crisis line if you have to.
Ignore any attempts they make to manipulate you, or get a reaction from you.
Dont look at their social media, better yet stay off of it for the day.
Or, if you dont know anymore, try something new if youre able!
This is a time to find yourself again, and pamper yourself a little.
Its okay, you need it, and deserve it.
It gets better, a little at a time, I promise.
Its a long hard road to freedom.
It seems to never end some days, but its so worth it to be free.
I hope all of you stay safe on Valentines Day.
Dont let it get to you and even if it does, its okay!
take a stab at keep no contact!
Kirst
8.I booked a spa reiki session on Valentines Day.
Reiki re-energizes my inner warrior and gives me outstanding clarity.
Emjay
9.Its Victory Day.
Narcissists fake it to the outside world and you know the battle his new victim is fighting in private.
This is happy to be free day!
Lee
10.Give yourself a Valentine.
Treat yourself to a nice dinner, dessert or something to take care of you.
You are a survivor and you deserve it.
Use the day to show yourself some much-needed love.
I can say now from the bottom of my heart give yourself a chance to turn toward yourself.
Get help to do it.
Be as loving and gentle with yourself as possible.
Dont give up, dont compare yourself its okay.
Its happening to me and even though Im still sad and lonely, its not the same agony.
Love isnt supposed to be painful.
That was all you.
I wouldnt wish it on a single soul.
I venture to think about all of the terrible feelings that used to come along with the day.
The uneasiness, the letdowns, and the belittling.
The backhanded compliments and so on.
Focus on those, then give a shot to realize how peaceful this new Valentines Day is.
Without all of that emotional mindf*ckery.
I watch that and Im quickly reminded to be thankful for the day as it is.
And then do that for yourself.
Make a big special breakfast or dinner or both.
Slip love notes into your lunch bag.
Start a love affair with yourself.
When you hear a song that might hit a chord, think about singing it to yourself.
Just appreciate and love who you are and your value and your ability to love.
It is helping me really grasp my value.
Eddie
16.Remember, he or she NEVER LOVED YOU.
But it wasnt your fault.
They are incapable of love.
You must believe that part.
It was all a manipulation.
Renee
17.Remind yourself I am okay and strong enough to do this alone!
While I might be sad to be alone, I am worth a lot more than that!
Keep busy to stop yourself from dwelling on them.
Part of healing is self-care which leads to self-love…eventually.
I am fortunate to be in a relationship now that allows me to heal and spend me time.
If you never had the chance to start, do it on Valentines Day.
You are worth your dream relationship.
Lets get there by loving ourselves first.
But, stay No Contact or Minimal Contact if you have children.
It is the only way to freedom and healing.
Renee
20.This is a day for you.
Just look at what youve accomplished and what youve survived.
Be proud of yourself.
Read it out loud to someone.
Let your list empower you.
I just dont understand you!
Hope
22.Loneliness is not a good reason to invite toxic people back into your life.
Dont give them any power again just because youre single.
Amanda
23.Treat yourself special!
Light candles and give yourself a warm environment to relax in.
Order a nice meal and open a bottle of your favorite wine to go with.
Go to town with it.
Get ready for your special date with yourself.
Then, while eating that scrumptious dinner, think about how much you deserve this.
You are a new and spectacular you!
A survivor, a warrior, you have come through the fire and been made new!
A wiser, better you.
Angela
24.To every survivor out there: self-love is the best love.
Take a me day.
Pamper yourself and just breathe.
