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Updated 4 years ago,July 11, 2021
I turn 25 soon.
My twenties are almost halfway over.
After I stopped panicking, I instead started reflecting on what Ive learned.
Wendy Wei
Theres still so much knowledge left to obtain, and so many more years to do it.
Dont take advantage of them.
Put them on the top of your priority list, only after yourself.
Mental health is real health.
Let me say it a little bit louder for the people in the back.
MENTAL HEALTH IS REAL HEALTH.
Its scary (and expensive) to navigate, but youll be better for it.
Theres nothing to be ashamed of.
I repeat:there is nothing to be ashamed of.
It was like I was home again.
You cant expect people to understand you if you dont let them.
Tell them what makes you, you.
Sometimes, itll come back and bite you in the ass.
But other times, youll develop some of the best partnerships and friendships youll ever have.
No is a necessary vocabulary word.
Im naturally a giver, but my anxiety can only take so much.
Dont say yes to a one-time discount.
When I was a teenager, credit card debt was something I promised I would never have.
Fast forward to 22.
Dont fall into the trap.
Its ok if your life doesnt look exactly like how you wanted it to when you wanted it to.
Good things take time.
Im still learning this one.
Its okay to be disappointed but its not okay to give up.
Its okay to wallow in self-pity and let your disappointment eat at you for a while.
Just dont let it consume you.
Dont let it stop you from chasing after your dreams or living your best life.
Instead, let it fuel you.
Vegetables are good for you.
For someone whose favorite color is green, I was always adamantly against green foods.
Youll be better for it.
Fad diets arent sustainable.
Believe it or not, you arent alone in whatever fight youre facing.
People have gone through what youre going through.
It just takes you gathering the courage to ask for help to realize that.
You dont have to be honest about everything.
Let me clarify here.
I dont think anyone should be a pathological liar.
What Im saying is your business is your own.
You dont have to share it with everyone if you choose not to.
If protecting yourself means skirting the truth every once in a while, theres no harm in that.
Not everyone is going to like you.
But at the end of the day, you arent going to yo everyone.
The sooner this is realized, the easier off your life will be.
Your bank account says nothing about who you are.
Growing up, I always thought having money meant that you were better than other people.
It meant you had more to offer and had a better sense of worth.
The best people in your life wont see the difference.
Forgiveness is hard, but necessary.
I dont know about you, but I can hold a grudge.
Once someone has wronged me, Ill always remember it.
Once youre finally able to do it, itll set you free.
Exercise is also hard, but also incredibly necessary.
Like forgiveness, exercise is purifying.
Exercise is for more than just your physical health for me, its also mental.
That never makes it any easier, but it does motivate me to do it more often.
At the end of the day, people can tear you down with one sentence.
They can target your weaknesses or your insecurities and rip you to shreds.
Thats just how life goes.
On the flip side, words can also build someone up and inflame their confidence.
you’re free to make someone feel better than they ever have with your praise.
Just be mindful, because theres a very fine line.
Motivation is fleeting, but discipline is long-lasting.
Enough said, I think.
It comes and goes in waves.
But being disciplined about something and forming a habit has lasting results.
Once you commit yourself to it and do it long enough, itll stick.
Take care of yourself.
Do that face mask.
Drink that glass of wine.
Run that extra mile on the treadmill.
Get your nails done and dye your hair.
Whatever self-care looks like for you, do it.
Everyone deserves to be taken care of.
I have a hard time accepting criticism.
People arent trying to attack me.
They wouldnt give me feedback if they didnt care.
Feedback is what makes you better if you listen to it.
Failure is not a bad thing.
You learn from messing things up.
Karma is very real.
Everything you put into the universe, you will also get out of it.
Doing good leads to receiving good.
Doing bad leads to receiving bad.
Be kind to others and they will be kind to you.
Dont, and they wont.
Its as easy as that.
Its not always greener on the other side.
Comparison will eat you alive.
The worst thing you could do is compare yourself to others.
Itll have you questioning everything.
Be yourself and dont worry about what other people are doing.
Whether it be from other people or from yourself, everyone deserves to be loved.
You may not believe it now, I may even struggle to believe it sometimes, but its true.
I hope one day, youll see that.
