Take down social media posts that you had with your ex.
1.attempt to remove your ex from your social media feed.
If you dont want to block them just yet, hide their posts/stories.
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This includes Spotify if you both have it.
Limiting their visibility on your feed will reduce the unnecessary trigger points.
2.Dont listen to sad songs or the songs you both like, it will scratch your heart every time.
3.make a run at stay busy.
So take every opportunity to distract yourself.
4.Use all tools available.
Exercise, good nutrition, even squeeze stress balls.
Surround yourself with family and true friends.
Do NOT ping the person!
No email, no texts, no FB checks.
No, just saying hi.
You cant be friends.
Time to process your feelings and to talk about how you are feeling with yourself or a therapist.
You will hear people say something like this a lot, but it seems so incredibly unobtainable.
It really only becomes obtainable once the emotional door opens.
Its closed when you are still really infatuated with them.
So give it time and hopefully you will be able to push that door open.
6.Write down every time you wanna reach out to your ex.
Write exactly how you feel and why you wanna reach out.
7.Take down social media posts that you had with your ex.
8.Dont rush into something new because youre afraid of being alone for a while.
Filling the void with someone new without working on yourself is a big mistake.
9.Dont romanticize your relationship.
Sure, there were good times but there were also bad times.
Its so easy to look at a failed relationship through rose-colored glasses and want to get back with them.
10.Suppress the urge to backslide.
We all have it.
Dont do it; it takes you right back to square one.
11.Realize that others wont always understand your pain.
12.Gono contacton day one.
Dont chase bread crumbs.
13.Find someone better, youll be amazed how fast you dont care anymore.
14.Leigh Graner said that the foolproof way of getting over someone was going to the gym… thirty times.
15.Dont focus on them, focus on yourself.
16.give a shot to start dating again as soon as youre ready.
Dont enter into a relationship with the first person you go on a date with…
Rebound relationships basically just delay the sadness youre feeling from the breakup.
However, you better retrain yourself to talk with the opposite sex in a non-platonic way.
Going on dates with a lot of different people will help with this.
That way youll be ready and can take action when you do meet someone special.
17.Pick up some new hobbies.
18.Repeat this mantra: You miss the feeling of being loved, not the person.
Listen to sad songs and cry.
But balance it out with ones that uplift you.
Just keep reading about relationships or start enjoying poetry.
Im not saying move (you could if you want) but rearrange your living space.
22.Dont believe the lie that youll never find love again or that youre unloveable.
23.Realize that the break up is a good thing.
24.Its a cliche but just do you.
Figure out who and what you are.
What you want and what you lack and what it’s possible for you to give.
Why do you need a partner?
Why do you want a partner?
What happened with this one?
What were your wrongs and what were their wrongs?
It doesnt matter if youre 13, 23, 33, 43, or 53.
Therell always be that void of loneliness and itch thats never been scratched.
Because you dont even know what you need or what you’re free to give.
If youre a young person, take this time to be someone of genuine value to yourself.
Thatll naturally make you a person who can provide for others as well.
Learn skills, pile on knowledge, and develop your physical traits.
Start working on all that and time will fly.
Youll meet someone before you realize its been months, years, since the breakup.
And youll see how far youve come.
25.Accept the things you cannot change.
26.Sit with your feelings.
There will be days where you just want to cry and do nothing in bed.
Let yourself grieve and cry.
As many times as it takes.
