Social awareness is overrated whilst self-awareness is underrated.
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Updated 6 years ago,November 15, 2018
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It doesnt get easier
With every age comes different challenges.
Ieva Urenceva
So, when I finally dared to go out my shell, I made a lot of mistakes.
I made decisions that had bad consequences for myself and others.
People lost trust in me and I lost trust in people.
But I was wrong because Im not a saint, Im only human.
If I deny myself, then whats the point of all this anyway?
From that point of view literally and figuratively I witness what I call the play of life.
We repress ourselves too much by social awareness and alienates ourselves to be social.
Dont let peoples words break you or doubt yourselves.
Just take it as a lesson that word has consequences.
Be selective in how you want to use your energy because thats the only thing we can control.
Then, its even more natural that point of views is probably clashing instead of having a reinforcing power.
We tend to think that we are right most of the times.
None of this is necessary to do.
You dont have to explain everything to everyone, even though you might probably be right sometimes.
Health is more important than anything else
We only began to appreciate when something or someone is gone.
That same goes for health.
Nothing even matters anymore if we let ourselves down by eating an excessive amount of junk food and drinks.
In some cases, its not even our own fault and that makes it even more frustrating.
When our health decreases, everything else goes down too.
It all starts with our health: the only thing we need to rely on.
Its more important than anything else.
I know I did.
I would keep up with this day-by-day torture to keep reminding myself that I have some worth.
Instead, our character says a lot more about our self-worth.
The things we do for others without expecting something back in return.
The things we say and share so that bring the best out of yourself and others.
But I am not.
Because I do have demands for myself and I do have high expectations of myself and others.
So instead of building that trust in myself, I have thrown myself blindly in the arms of others.
I got chills all over my body because of the novelty of taking ownership of my own thought process.
I got people leaving me because they told me I had changed.
The only thing that has changed is that I finally am listening to myself without letting anyone interrupting me.
Often, those friendships drift away as soon as the very last semester comes into the picture.
Sad, but it was good for the time being.
But what also happened a lot is that those friendships stay in your life out of habit.
It feels comfortable but it doesnt particularly add value to each others life.
It can take a long time before you realize it.
A good way to confirm the authenticity of your friendship?
Struggle and see who is coming down to your lane to show their support and love.
We wait around to have lightbulb moments to get started.
We neglect personal projects because of a lack of inspiration.
If we depend on such fluctuating matters as motivation or inspiration, we would never get anything done.
What we really need is persistence and a clear goal in mind.
Inspiration may bring genius ideas to the table but the persistence that makes small steps towards it.
You just want those days to be over.
If nothing feels right, dont deny it.
Sit with it and just be present and aware of how you are feeling.
Express if you gotta.
Create if you must.
Talk to someone if you want.
But do not deny it.
Do not go out and do things to numb your feelings.
In the end, it will just be even stronger and rushing back at you.
I was truly convinced that moving away would bring me final peace in my mind.
But as soon the novelty was wearing off, I got hit again with another storm.
Thats because the grass always seems greener on the other side.
But its in those differences among those fights that distinguish the depth of relationships.
Coming next year, my relationship will enter its ninth year already and it has not always been easy.
It wasnt about whom was jealous or taking score who has done more in keeping the house clean.
It wasnt about getting mad at our partner for our own insecurity that we are responsible for.
The fights you have with your partner says a lot about the depth of your relationship.
When a relationship progresses, the fights and discussions that come with it progress too.
Avoidance has always been the easy way out or…..maybe not?
When we avoid, it means something is unresolved.
If we avoid talking it out with someone, it means that there are unresolved issues floating around.
Avoidance brings a temporary satisfaction of reassurance.
Avoidance breeds only more unresolved emotions.
Its all about perspective
We as people adapt to what the world offers us.
My life is just a tiny part of the ever moving and limitless Universe.
Zooming in, we are intelligent with consciousness and senses.
We stress about problems that do not exist in other parts of the world.
We all like to think that our presence makes a difference.
Zooming out, we are all just specks of dust.
Its all about perspective.
I was 15, preparing to give my presentation.
I was 23, sharing my deepest fears to my girlfriends.
I was 26, telling people that I was about to go to Australia to better myself.
So for a very long time, I just shut up and hold in all my thoughts.
Which I later found out due to my writings that it wasnt soft at all.
It is during those moments that I would doubt my abilities my whole self.
That same girl who was longing for real connection and meaningful conversations.
At my best, I inspire others.
Dogs are and will always be better than humans
The caption says enough.
But to be truly selfless is a really hard characteristic to obtain.
You would think its in the things we do.
But its also what our motivations are towards a selfless cause.
Be honest with yourself why you are doing the things that you are doing.
I dont need religion to have morals
To continue on with my previous point.
Not to disrespect anyone who is religious, its only a point of view of myself.
Personally, I had never come in contact with religion from my upbringing.
We shouldnt need a reason to have morals be it religion or anything else.
We should not only blindly obey without thinking for ourselves first.
We should not only follow rules just because it has already been established for thousands of years.
We should learn to observe and judge strictly while staying open-minded.
Introversion is not a weakness
For so long, I thought there was something wrong with myself.
I always check which way the wind blows before acting on it.
At work, I got told off to be more extroverted.
After meetings with friends, I always ended up exhausted and worn out.
But then one day my sister showed me the MBTI test and I took it.
I was perplexed of how accurate the test was about my personality.
I always have suspected that I was an introvert.
The real eye-opener came afterward when I obsessively started to do research about introversion.
My introversion is not a weakness.
Its not better to be extroverted.
We are just wired differently and react differently to low or high stimulation.
Since that day I took that test, I felt like a huge brick has fallen off my shoulders.
We can even still love without having a relationship with the person we are in love with.
Its the support when it has not been asked for.
Its giving an ear to listen to understand, not to respond.
Its saying I love you without expecting them to say it back to you.
Its taking care of our own emotional well-being without lashing it out or blaming it on them.
It is respecting boundaries without feeling privileged to have to know everything.
Dont force out a smile for the sake of others
Been there, done that.
Save the smiles for the real deals.
Save it for yourself.
Share it when its genuine.
Dont force anything thats not good for your own well-being.
Fake it till you make it doesnt count here.
I used to smile and lighten the atmosphere around people to make it keep everyone satisfied and happy.
Not everyone apparently, because I always seem to forget one important person: myself.
Rainbows clouds covering the sky and cotton candy snowing to down below.
I always need to wake myself up from daydreams and confront myself that its not always rainbows and butterflies.
Go all-in or go home
Dont half-ass it.
Do something wholeheartedly or dont do it at all.
Be it a relationship.
Be grateful for everything
At the end of the day, we only have one life to spend.
Looking back now, I had it pretty good so far.
We tend to feel resentment towards experiences that throw us out of balance or even off the whole road.
It makes us confused and disoriented, wondering how we can go back.
It makes us feel lost and frustrated when we cant seem to find our way back.
