We all know that malignant narcissists like to provoke, taunt and destroy people - all with clean hands.
But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims?
But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims?
Brooke Shaden
All of his affairs especially the final one in which he is still with his victim.
He told me he would destroy her life and her career.
I had no idea the last 6 months with him was what is defined as the discard.
I found out he was with this specific girl months after I escaped.
She is in so much danger and she hasnt a clue.
Relle
Would invite me somewhere, only to abandon me and flirt with other people.
Brooke Shaden
I have a book worth of examples of the betrayal, lies, and manipulating he did.
They are all cruel, heartless, damaging.
He brought me to his familys house and left without telling me.
When I called him, he didnt answer the phone.
I had to wait for him to come back.
I was accused of being a jealous nagging bore.
Mimi
Used spirituality as a cover for his hypocrisy.
It made me feel like I was getting involved with someone honest and gentle.
Lisa
Played mind games with listening and hearing.
He would bait me.
I would say something and he would say What?
I didnt hear you!
so I would talk a little louder.
Then he would repeat the same thing.
He would then walk out and give me the silent treatment.
Patti
Mine would say I cant hear you, you speak too low, speak a little louder.
Why are you yelling?
He had me thinking I was losing my hearing.
Pauline
Said I mumbled and called it drizzling the cheese.
Then, when I repeated myself more loudly, he would say I yelled it and became angry.
Crystal
Subjected me to covert put-downs about my body.
Hed make jokes and insults about my weight.
Hed even take small jabs that were small but you just know hes insulting you on the sly.
Sharron
Gave me intermittent praise followed by put-downs.
By repeating a pattern of put-downs followed by a period of how great I am.
Screwing with my mind and keeping me unbalanced so that I never know what to expect.
Angela
Screwed my friends and screwed me over.
To the point where my friends couldnt be around me or talk with me.
Angie
Pathologized my emotions when they were actually valid.
The sneakiest way he manipulated me was with extreme psychological warfare, gaining my trust and then exploiting it.
I read so many marriage books that said never to utter those words during an argument.
It shocked me how easily he said it.
I told him he should never use the term divorce in a fight.
It was like his ammo.
Hed say it repeatedly in almost every argument, even though he signed that paper.
Then, wed argue and hed say, You just want to fight dont you?!
referring to the pact we made.
It was taunting to an extreme level, it made me feel so worthless.
But he never filed for divorce.
Every single thing that Id ever shared with him became his twisted warfare against me.
Every single person Id ever had a falling out with became his new best friend.
Hope
Gaslighted me and isolated me.
And he said our relationship problems were all my fault.
I believed him for so long.
It was easier because my brain was so foggy, so I depended on his.
He would disappear for days at a time and lose his shit and say I made things up.
Eddie
Made me believe no one liked me.
Lindsay
Called the people he was sleeping with just friends.
He introduced me to his just friends coworker and insisted we become friends.
We helped her leave her marriage and deal with her ex.
I became suspicious and begged him not to sleep with her.
He told me I was paranoid.
Her ex insisted they were having an affair.
I told him he was crazy.
Of course, it turned out that my now ex-husbandwassleeping with her.
I took pictures at her sons birthday party.
We hung out without my ex.
I feel sorry for her now.
But of course, they were still just friends.
Discarded me again within a month of it for her.
Always had a quick excuse.
Desiree
Complimented me and then used those compliments as excuses to justify abuse.
Deprived me of sleep with crazymaking arguments.
He would create huge arguments out of thin air.
Then, he would walk back in the next day as if nothing had happened.
Karen
Manipulated me with sex.
He would manipulate me with sex.
I just felt forced to do it so you can bring peace to our marriage.
Cynthia
Got me pregnant to get me to stay.
He got me pregnant, knowing that would make me stay.
I had planned to divorce him.
Renee
We had just talked about trying to have another baby and waiting a year to start.
And yes, I became pregnant.
Bonnie
Guilt-tripped me and made me dependent on her approval.
My sister was my narcissist.
From an early age, she would control me by playing on my love of family.
You love me and you need me, but Im just fine without you.
I was always extremely fearful that I would need her.
She would do things for me to ingratiate herself, making me feel dependent on her.
Then she would take it all away.
It was a very confusing way to grow up.
I watched her go through friends in the same way.
Jill
Blamed it on the meds.
It was 7 months of hell including sexual assault and verbal/emotional abuse before I could get out again.
Shawna
Threatened to commit suicide.
First of all, he threatened to commit suicide if I didnt marry him.
I was young, naive, afraid, insecure.
He manipulated me into marrying him.
After that, lying, cheating, living a double all along, from the beginning.
For the whole 40 years.
How I could not make it without him.
Kept me from having friends.
Trying to keep me from speaking when we were out in public places.
The list goes on and on.
I have never been suicidal.
Lastly, he limited me to 1 meal a day, while nursing our newborn.
Molly
Pathological lying and drip-feeding me the truth.
Lying about anything and everything, for his own benefit.
And he was damn good at it.
If I suspected something he would so easily lie right to my face.
I could have a blue piece of paper and he would call it orange if it benefited him.
His lies would come out as if it was the absolute truth.
What a roller coaster those two years were.
Lauren
Told me he would take care of me financially, just to control me.
I will take care of you.
you’re free to quit your job.
Worst decision I ever made.
I let him take financial control under the guise of him taking care of me.
He controlled and manipulated me through finances.
