Badmouthing the other parent.
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Updated 8 years ago,June 9, 2017
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Badmouthing the other parent.
Liane Metzler
Badmouthing the other parent.
I understand you might lose your shit during a divorce, but keep your kids out of it.
Get some therapy if you cant handle it.
Liane Metzler
gamerladyM
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Staying together and arguing instead of getting a divorce.
Stay together instead of getting a divorce because they think its better for the kid that way.
:( Source: this was my situation growing up.
v0nnegut_goes
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Trying to be their friend, not their parent.
Kids need a calm authority figure to enforce rules and expectations, especially teenagers.
Yanahlua
Comment on their appearance/weight/body.
Suck in your stomach!
Why arent you wearing makeup?
You know better than that!
How are people supposed to notice you if you dont look your best?
pixi3bitcg
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Shitting on their dreams.
Shitting on their kids dreams.
Fuck doing what you love, son.
traitor_swift
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Failing to realize the world has changed since they were kids.
tinker_dinker
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Comparing them to other kids, especially siblings.
Comparing them to other kids, especially siblings.
No kid likes to hear Why cant you be more like so and so?
Its just so damaging.
Your child is not so and so, they will never be so and so.
Just help them along with being who they are.
SalemScout
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Never standing up for them.
Never standing up for them.
Its hard for kids to trust their parents if they cant be certain they have their back.
punkterminator
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Refusing to believe their child could do something wrong.
Refuse to believe their child could do something wrong.
sloths_are_overrated
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Instilling their own fears into their kids.
Instill their own insecurities and fears into their children.
Superdudeabides
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Refusing to ever apologize or admit when theyre wrong.
They will remember the cashier you yelled at for a mistake that you made but wouldnt say sorry for.
Aelle1209
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Physically punishing them after theyve admitted to an honest mistake.
Physically punishing and screaming at your kid for fessing up to an honest mistake.
I accidentally broke a window when I was 5 and told the truth about it.
I was promptly spanked pretty vigorously and sent to my room and told to stay in there.
What did I take away from that?
Lie if it prevents you from getting into any sort of trouble.
I was a pretty dishonest kid for years after that.
profhelios
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Using them as an emotional dumping ground.
Using your kids as an emotional dumping ground.
My mom has always told me everything bad in her life.
She always tells me about her issues with my dad.
burnerrrs
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Never being able to give a compliment without wrapping it in an insult.
No matter what achievements one makes, the parent relates it to a failure.
Nice job making Eagle Scout.
If only your grades were better.
Good work mowing the lawn.
But you couldnt do the dishes?
I cant believe you lasted this long living on your own driving a forklift.
Fuck you, Mom.
Last I checked Im employed, not in debt, and going back to school while completely supporting myself.
Im doing pretty God damned well for someone my age.
ViciousKnids
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Giving them too much freedom.
Giving a kid freedom as a teenager is key.
Slaughterhouse451
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Training them to be doormats.
Train their kids to be doormats.
Zargon2
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Besides the obvious abusive answers, invading the kids privacy.
My mom (along with many other parents) would read my texts sometimes and confront me about them.
I never felt comfortable locking my door, it was always associated with being angry or spiteful.
I didnt even realize knocking was normal.
It kind of messed up my idea of privacy in relationships.
Didnt really think snooping wasthatwrong for a while.
ohwhatirony
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Giving in when the kid throws a tantrum.
Give in when kid is being demanding or throwing a tantrum.
I refused (fuck you I found a dollar and Im a 9-year-old thats a big deal!)
and she ran home to her mom upset and about to cry.
Now you found one, too!
That kid was a nightmare with a very warped definition of fairness.
Buloi92
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Making sex and sexual anatomy taboo.
Making sex and sexual anatomy taboo.
My son woke up yesterday with extreme pain in his testicles.
We ended up rushing to the hospital and found out his has testicular torsion.
They were able to do surgery and hell be as good as new shortly.
All three were teens around my sons age and all were too embarrassed to speak up sooner.
Dont do that to your kids.
It could cost them their ball(s).
Bollocksave
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Woctordo
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Telling them how expensive it is to raise a child.
Telling them how expensive it is to raise a child.
A kid should not have to worry about family finances, or feeling like a burden.
cherriere
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Frequent nitpicking and disapproval.
Frequent shows of disapproval.
Kids are primed to be approved by their parents for who they are.
You should keep your hair short.
My mom had a personality disorder and hated me.
I was more outspoken.
My brother appeased her.
But I see this dynamic play out even among normal families.
That disapproval stays with kids.
Im trying to do better with my sons.
ScimitarJane
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Forcing them to go to church.
Force them to go to church past a certain age.
Your kids know by about age 12 if they get ANYTHING at all out of going to church.
My mother was super religious and it was forced upon me.
It was cruel IMHO and I will never go to church again for the rest of my life.
Thanks, auntie and uncle!
king_ejd
24. aycarumba_doh
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Arguing in front of the kids.
How parents treat each other is another way to really fuck up a kid.
thelemonsoflife
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Grew up in the suburbs around a bunch of entitled brats.
Some got anything they wanted from their parents.
SHANKUMS11
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Keeping the kids from their fathers.
Their mothers with the help of the man hating family court system, keeping the kids from their fathers.
Thanks for that family court system, see you fuckers in hell when I have my time to rule.
