Maybe the guys you date are duds.
Maybe guys pull the disappearing act on you over and over.
Maybe your relationships always implode.
Thought Catalog Agency
To solve a problem, you’re gonna wanna correctly identify it.
Here are the top three (most likely) reasons you are still single:
1.
Theres no faster way to repel a man than to need him.
Wanting a man is not the same as needing one.
A lot of women mistake the male aversion to neediness as men being commitment-phobes.
A guy wants to feel chosen by a woman he had to earn.
Solution: Neediness usually stems from a lack of self-esteem or sense of worth.
If you were unhappy before the relationship, youll be unhappy in it.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself about being single, work on your relationship with yourself.
Work on feeling your best and looking your best.
We want to be swept off our feet and taken over by this all-consuming feeling of euphoria and harmony.
Another problem is that most women have adopted this idea that its better to be alone than settle.
Solution: Make a list of non-negotiable qualities ahusband should have.
This does not include things like how far back his hairline is or how much money he makes.
Unless there was something that absolutely repulsed you about him, give him another shot.
A lot of women are way too quick to dismiss a guy before really giving him a fair shot.
Who knows where they would have ended up had they not given the guys another shot.
You Have A Faulty Filter System.
Everyone has a certain ingrained filter system.
This system is partially due to genetic wiring, but it is largely shaped by our experiences.
This filter system is often based on our interests, desires, and our fears.
For instance, if you are afraid of rejection, all youll pick up on is being rejected.
A hundred people can tell you how great an wonderful you are, but it wont sink in.
Once you come to expect the behavior, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Close your eyes and pick a color.
I guarantee it will be that color unless you did this in an all white room.
Were all wired to look at the world in subjective ways.
you should probably be able to appreciate and acknowledge the goodness that is in you and in your relationship.
If you let your fears execute the show, you will set yourself up for sabotage.
